Quantcast
Channel: In This Week’s Edition – The 5 Towns Jewish Times
Viewing all 2369 articles
Browse latest View live

Mild Cognitive Impairment And Alzheimer’s Disease

$
0
0

By Anita Kamiel, RN, MPS

They are quips we hear often enough—when you forget a name or where you left your keys: “I’m having a senior moment,” or, “My Alzheimer’s is setting in!” As we age, the body changes, including the composition of the brain, making the elderly more prone to mild forgetfulness. Sometimes these memory slips are nothing to worry about, but sometimes they may signal something more serious, like mild cognitive impairment or even Alzheimer’s disease. Fortunately, scientists keep fine-tuning their understanding of normal memory loss and the alarm bells regarding which type of dementia may be present.

Memory problems may be related to treatable health issues such as chronic cardiovascular disease, high blood pressure, alcoholism, tumors, infections, blood clots in the brain, or thyroid, kidney, or liver disorders, which can all cause memory loss or dementia. Side effects from medications can be a cause, as can certain vitamin deficiencies. Research has shown that anemia, common in the elderly, could increase the risk of dementia. Additionally, emotional problems like stress, anxiety, or depression, can leave a person feeling distracted, making them appear more forgetful. Once these issues are addressed, the dementia may be halted or even reversed.

While almost all seniors experience memory lapses, some experience mild cognitive impairment (MCI). If we view dementia as a 7-stage process with stage 1 having no cognitive problems and 7 having severe, this would be considered stage 3 (www.dementiacarecentral.com). It is typically the initial stage of forgetfulness, by and large noticeable only to loved ones. Those diagnosed with MCI could still live independently with their mild cognition issues. Symptoms include misplacing items, having trouble remembering the names of recently met individuals, and difficulty with the flow of conversations. Diagnosis is tough since no definitive test is available, but an experienced geriatrician can recognize MCI with short mental tests, family input, and by ruling out other mitigating factors. Unfortunately, the FDA hasn’t approved treatment for MCI, but doctors sometimes go “off label” and prescribe drugs used for treating Alzheimer’s.

When memory slips get more intense, it could indicate Alzheimer’s disease. MCI is one of the stages toward Alzheimer’s, but MCI doesn’t always result in Alzheimer’s. However, MCI does increase the risk of getting the disease. The Alzheimer’s Association is a great resource and has a list of the 10 early signs and symptoms of Alzheimer’s.

1. Memory loss that disrupts daily life.

2. Challenges in planning or solving problems.

3. Difficulty completing familiar tasks at home, work, or leisure

4. Confusion with time or place.

5. Trouble understanding visual images and spatial relationships.

6. New problems with words in speaking or writing.

7. Misplacing things and losing the ability to retrace steps.

8. Decreased or poor judgment.

9. Withdrawal from work or social activities.

10. Changes in mood and personality.

The Alzheimer’s Association also lays out a comparison between Alzheimer’s and normal aging. For example, an Alzheimer’s patient loses track of the date and time of year as opposed to forgetting the day and remembering it later. Someone with Alzheimer’s cannot handle monthly bills while a normal senior might miss a monthly payment. Alzheimer’s results in trouble with whole conversations versus forgetting which word to use, and misplacing things regularly versus once in a while. MCI symptoms would fall between these extremes and is viewed as the third stage toward the seven stages of Alzheimer’s.

As soon as you notice cognitive problems in your loved one, it’s important to consult a doctor; a geriatrician would be a good choice. Conducting a thorough health evaluation—including review of medical history, prescription and over-the-counter medicines, diet, past medical problems and general health—is necessary to getting to the root of the problem.

The earlier the diagnosis, the better the elderly can take advantage of all current and cutting-edge treatments available. There are many therapies that can be implemented early on, some even non-pharmacologic, to try to slow the progress of the condition. Early diagnosis affords family members plenty of time for planning and ensuring a safe living arrangement is set in place. This stressful process can be greatly eased by consulting with organizations and professionals who work with the elderly and their diseases on a regular basis.

Anita Kamiel, R.N, M.P.S. is the founder and owner of David York Home Healthcare Agency and is fully acquainted with all factors related to eldercare services and the latest guidelines for seniors. Thirty years ago, she realized the need for affordable, quality home health aide services provided and supervised by caring individuals. You can contact her at 718-376-7755 or at www.davidyorkagency.com. David York Agency is also on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, and LinkedIn.

 


5 Towns Dating Forum

$
0
0

Question

I am in a huge mess right now.

This girl and I have been dating for a long time, but taking it slow, because I want to wait till I’m done with dental school. Lately, she has been pushing more for us to get married, because her friends are all getting engaged. But she understands that I can’t do that yet.

This arrangement had been working fine, until my friends decided to pull a prank. They sent a text message from my phone to hers, pretending to be me. The text said lots of mushy stuff and also proposed marriage! She answered yes.

That’s when my friends panicked and told me what happened. I called her right away to tell her that it was not me sending that text. Instead of laughing about the prank, she got angry and said she didn’t believe it was a prank but rather that I just got cold feet, and she didn’t know how she could ever trust me. That was three weeks ago, and she won’t talk to me. How can I straighten this out?

I also want to mention that my friends and I have always sent funny texts to people pretending to be each other. Also, they never really liked my girlfriend all that much to begin with. They say I could do so much better.

Response

By Baila Sebrow

Before straightening out the dilemma you are caught up in, you need to work on the boundary issues you and your friends have. It sounds like you have been friends with these guys for a long time, and keep no secrets from one another. On one hand, it comes across that this is a cohesive group of friends. However, the shortcoming of your bond is that you obviously do not respect each other’s privacy. Worse, it sounds like none of you have any respect for the people you play such pranks on. And that worries me in addition to the pickle you got yourself into.

No matter how close you are with someone, privacy is the one thing you can never compromise on. It is every person’s basic human right. There are those who demand that the people they are close with reveal every detail, from the most trivial to the most essential. Although mostly seen in family relationships, this is also common amongst friends.

There are singles who tell me of the discomfort they sometimes experience when their friends become aware that they are dating someone. These guys and girls have expressed that it almost feels like they are being spied on. From the hours and minutes they are on the date, to what they ate or talked about, the inquisitions can be unending. When such situations are not nipped in the bud, things can get much worse. As time goes on, the nosy friend feels more and more in control, as he or she appears to have gained power and influence. In due course, they feel entitled to generate negative comments.

You state that your friends never liked this girl, which means that they must have spoken against her. These good buddies of yours even have no problem telling you that you could do much better. They are pretty much telling you to break up with her. Don’t you see the pattern here? Yet, for whatever reason, it seems that thus far you never took the opinions and comments of your friends to heart, and so these self-serving souls took another approach to solve “their” dilemma.

Your tale might at first appear to be a typical illustration of a practical joke gone wrong. There are those funny guys who are jokesters and play pranks on others, not realizing how someone’s existence can potentially be destroyed by their antics. Sadly, there are stories of people who have not just lost friends, relationships, or jobs, but tragically even lives—all because some bored individual decided to play a joke on an innocent victim.

If this were a harmless prank, I would advise you to have your friends apologize, and for you to somehow find a way to make peace with this girl. But I am afraid that we are dealing with something more sinister here. Not only that, but when your girlfriend realized that the proposal was not sincere, her first reaction was that you got cold feet. That tells me that there is an ongoing conflict in your relationship to begin with.

Your number-one order of business is taking care of the real victim in this mess—your girlfriend. It is evident that she is not too thrilled having to wait until you finish dental school to get married. You mention how you want to wait until you are done with your education, but you acknowledge that she does not share your sentiments.

Her refusal to talk to you is not surprising in this case. She likely knows that whatever you tell her will be some lame excuse defending the behavior of your friends. In her mind that would only cause her more pain. She no doubt feels betrayed by you. Here she has been dating a guy for a long time, waiting around for him to feel ready to marry her, and his friends turn it into comic relief. Why should she trust you again? Furthermore, what faith have you instilled in your relationship when your friends feel at liberty to take something as serious as a marriage proposal and make a mockery out of it?

So what can you do? Thanks to the insensitivity of your friends, you have now been positioned to do some serious soul-searching. Take the time you are presently away from this girl and figure out if you seriously want to continue dating her.

I strongly advise you not to discuss this relationship with your friends. If anything, refuse to answer any questions they may throw at you. In fact, for the time being, until you come to terms with this dating relationship, it is probably in your best interest to keep a bit of a distance from these friends altogether.

I don’t know how long you have been dating this girl for, but has anything in her personality changed from the time you met her till now? Bear in mind, though, that she is likely feeling frustrated that people she knows are getting engaged, perhaps even to guys who are in school. Evaluate her for the person she is and determine whether this girl is someone whom you ultimately want to make a life with. Is the real reason you have not proposed marriage yet because you want to wait until you finish school, or is that an excuse you are making to yourself and to her?

Although the timing might appear unkind, if it turns out that you really feel that she is not right for you, it would be worse for you to make nice with this girl about this episode and schlep her around longer. Whatever decision you finally reach, do not heed the words of your friends that you can do much better. Such sayings have no place in anyone’s decision-making process. The reality is that there is no such thing. Many people have made similar mistakes, breaking up after being in long relationships, thinking that “the grass is greener on the other side,” only to discover that the other side does not consist of nicer grass, but rather it consists of dirt.

Even though friends who play pranks on one another have been around since the beginning of time, the circumstances surrounding this prank need to be addressed. I am not happy with the way your friends are behaving. Even if they felt that your relationship with this girl is not right for you, sending her a prank text the way you describe it proves to me that these friends are not good people. They knew they were playing with emotions and seemingly could not care any less. I caution you to reevaluate whether these are the type of people you want to be around—whether you continue to date this girl or eventually find yourself in another relationship.

Baila Sebrow is president of Neshoma Advocates, communications and recruitment liaison for Sovri-Beth Israel, executive director of Teach Our Children, and a shadchanis. She can be reached at Bsebrow@aol.com. 

Questions and comments can be submitted to 5townsforum@gmail.com.

 

How To Stay (Happily) Married

$
0
0

By Naomi L Baum

My husband and I recently celebrated our fortieth wedding anniversary, and our daughter Shoshi asked me to share the secret to staying married for all those years. Her request gave me pause. What is the secret to staying married in these challenging times when fewer and fewer people are willing to commit to a lifetime together? What has helped us through the vicissitudes of life?

I consulted with my walking partner the other day as we completed our regular circuit. She said, “You just do it! You stay married.” I was quiet as I mulled this over. Later, I realized that it’s not only about the commitment of staying married, although that is truly important, but the emphasis here is on staying happily married. What is the secret to keeping a marriage alive, dynamic, interesting, and even fun? How do you plow through the hard times without giving up?

I think that marriage, much like a plant or other living creature, is something you have to nurture, protect, nourish, and pay attention to. Relationships change over time, as do the people who make up the relationship. A long-term marriage does not happen all by itself. If you put your marriage into “automatic mode,” I am fairly certain that you will have a guaranteed failure. So what, then, is the recipe for success?

I do not presume to have the recipe, nor can I assert that our sailing has always been smooth. As all couples that have been married a good length of time, we have had good times and bad times together. Nevertheless, I am going to suggest ten pieces of advice that I have found helpful along the way, in the hope that they may bring some good to the world and specifically to some of the younger set who count their anniversaries in the single digits and are still open to change.

1. Keep the big picture in mind. When those annoying little things bog you down and annoy you (I won’t start to list them), try to remember the bigger picture—the family you have created, your life goals, your relationship over time.

2. Do small, considerate things each day that you know your spouse appreciates; for example, making a cup of coffee exactly the way he or she likes it, taking out the garbage, giving a back or foot rub.

3. Find things you like to do together, and make sure to do them. In our early years together, we used to enjoy bike-riding, taking walks, jogging, and playing ping-pong and pool. The activities we do together have evolved over time, but we are always on the lookout for things to do together—whether it’s taking a course about Renaissance art, sitting in a Jacuzzi, enjoying a glass of wine, studying the Talmud, or taking a walk.

4. Make time for each other as often as possible. That means time alone—without the kids, without friends, without colleagues or family members. This can be an hour, an evening, a weekend, or more. If you are afraid of spending time alone together, talk about it and try to figure out why. Perhaps you have gotten out of the habit. Perhaps this is a warning sign that you need to stop and take care of this relationship. Spending time alone is a good way to remember why you married this person. Focusing on each other is a wonderful way to keep the flame going.

5. Try to overlook shortcomings in your partner. We all have them. Am I perfect? Certainly not. Why then do I expect my spouse to be perfect? (I do, but then I catch myself and remind myself of this rule.)

6. Say one nice thing to your spouse every day. You like the way he looks, the way she cuts the salad, the way he does laundry—anything and everything. You can say more than one nice thing a day; one is the absolute minimum.

7. When you fight—and you will—try to fight fair. Try not to bring up your mother-in-law and the kitchen sink in every fight. Try to focus on the issue at hand. In the middle of a fight, take a breath for a moment and step away, hopefully gaining a little bit of perspective, before resuming. Remember that it is easy to hurt someone, but much more difficult to repair that hurt.

8. Take a united stand in front of your kids. You are bound to disagree on more than one issue when it comes to childrearing. Try to support each other. Do not undercut one another. If you disagree, take it up with each other, but not in front of the kids. The corollary to that is, don’t fight in front of the kids. (But dare I say that my kids have been privy to more than one fight between us?)

9. Find time every day to talk with each other. I believe that the average couple talks less than 10 minutes with each other, every day. Try to beat that average. Share your day, your experiences, your thoughts and feelings. When your spouse talks, make sure you listen. That means no cell phone, no texting, no TV on in the background. Give yourselves the gift of undivided attention.

10. Last but not least, say “I love you.” Often. Don’t save those words for special occasions. Say it as if you mean it.

• • •

I cannot say that these rules are golden in any sense, but I believe that they are helpful in keeping a relationship strong over the long run. I know that I should read this list from time to time as well. I fail at each one of them, regularly. But then again, I also have my good days.

Fortunately, I have my partner of 40 years, who is forgiving and supportive, a veritable rock to lean on in good times and in more challenging ones as well, a wonderful father, a fabulous grandfather, and a true partner in my life. I was lucky to meet him when I was 15 years old. G‑d blessed me with the wisdom to say yes at 18 and to marry at age 20. Although we have had our moments over the years, they have been just that—moments. For the greater part of 40 years, we have had a wonderful life. Thank G‑d, we have been blessed to journey through life together. v

Naomi L. Baum, Ph.D., is a psychologist and consults in the field of trauma and resilience worldwide. She is the author of Life Unexpected: A Trauma Psychologist Journeys through Breast Cancer.

 

‘Es Kumtz Mir’

$
0
0

By Rav Aryeh Z Ginzberg
Chofetz Chaim Torah Center

There is no other month on the Jewish calendar that grabs our full attention as does the month of Tishrei, filled with the various yamim tovim, or, as Rav Pam referred to them, the yamim niflai’m, days of wonder. We are called upon to focus our thoughts and actions on teshuvah, tefillah, and then simcha. As distinct as these components are, there is one common thread between them: hakaras ha’tov.

One of the important aspects of our own relationships with HaKadosh Baruch Hu and with our fellow man is the responsibility and obligation to be makir tov, to express appreciation for all that we have received. Most often we fall very short in this area, and for this we are held accountable. Why is it so difficult to properly express our hakaras ha’tov for all the wonderful gifts that each of us is blessed with? Both Rav Dessler (Michtav MiEliyahu) and Rav Aharon Kotler (Mishnas Rav Aharon) explain the difficulty.

Chazal (Moed Kattan 27b) teach us that even crying for the loss of a loved one has its limits. When one cries too much over a painful loss, the result will be the suffering of another loss. We are told of a widow who had seven children; when one died, she cried incessantly and would not stop her mourning despite warnings from the chachamim to cease. She continued her mourning and crying— until all seven of her children had died.

Rav Dessler and Rav Kotler understand this Chazal to mean that the problem was that this woman’s attitude was not one of appreciation of what she had been given, but rather one of “I deserve it.” She believed deeply that “eskumtz mir,” it is coming to me. If she had expressed hakaras ha’tov to Hashem for the gift of each of her children, acknowledging that each was a gift from HaKadosh Baruch Hu, then her tears over the pain of her loss would have been within limits. However, when it is all coming to you, there is no consolation for that loss.

Our sense of hakaras ha’tov is so weak because our sense of “es kumtz mir,” of entitlement, is so strong. We live in times when the prevalent mindset is that we deserve everything we have and more—and if we deserve it, then there is no need to express our hakaras ha’tov to anyone, not even the Borei Olam.

If someone takes food from my pantry and gives me a meal, I need not thank him for it, because it was mine to begin with; but if he gave me food from his pantry, then I owe him hakaras ha’tov. If my good health, parnassah, shalom bayis, healthy children, etc., are all “coming to me,” if it is all mine because I deserve it all, then there is no room left to express a sense of appreciation for what I received.

A recent visit to a particular street in Manhattan brought this home for me in a deeper sense. The Mount Sinai hospital system spans several city blocks. On one block is the main entrance to the building that contains the various clinics affiliated with the hospital. East 98th between Fifth and Madison Avenues features an imposing structure, 15 stories high; each floor houses a different specialty and clinic and is bustling with people coming and going from morning until night. The parking spaces in front of the buildings are used nonstop by ambulances and cars dropping off the patients visiting this building. There are maybe two or three spots to park that are almost never empty because of the emergency medical vehicles parked there.

One day this summer, I had to drop off a family member at one of the clinics. I have done this many times before, but this time, for the first time ever, the parking space directly opposite the building’s entrance was empty. I pulled in, feeling very fortunate, and planned on spending the next hour preparing the next morning’s daf yomi shiur.

I didn’t even get to open the Gemara. I couldn’t help but notice car after car, ambulance after ambulance, pull up to unload their human cargo. It was difficult to watch and at the same time it was painfully eye-opening. The vehicles unloaded men and women of every age, nationality, and race. The only common denominator was that they were all severely medically challenged. They were in wheelchairs, on stretchers, on crutches, with oxygen tanks, broken limbs, missing limbs, all making their way to this large building.

If the city council would allow me to rename the street, I would call it “Rechov Shaarei Teshuvah,” or, even better, “Rechov Hakaras HaTov.” For I don’t recall ever feeling more appreciative to HaKadosh Baruch Hu for all the berachos and special gifts of being able to walk on my own, see on my own, and not be incapacitated by physical limitations. After an hour of painful observation and getting a deeper appreciation of how many undeserved gifts from HaKadosh Baruch Hu we enjoy every minute of every day, I made a commitment to spend an extra few minutes of concentration the next morning while reciting Birchos HaShachar.

While I kept my commitment for the next morning, unfortunately it didn’t last for even another day after that. We are so embedded in the “es kumtz mir” mode of thinking that even when we are forced to face our reality that we have so much, all undeserved, it is only a fleeting moment of reality check, and then we revert to self-absorption.

The Ramban asked a compelling question. If Moshe Rabbeinu’s tefillos were so powerful that HaKadosh Baruch Hu had to respond to them, as we saw by the cheit ha’eigel, why then didn’t Moshe simply daven to be healed from being a kaved peh, which rendered him unable to speak properly and required his brother Aharon HaKohen to speak instead?

The Ramban answers that he didn’t ever want to forget for a moment the great nes that HaKadosh Baruch Hu did for him years earlier (in the palace, by switching his hand to reach for the burning embers rather than the glittering jewels), so he did not want to daven to have this speech impediment removed from him. He didn’t want to forget it for a moment.

My brother-in-law, Rav Betzalel Rudinsky, insightfully pointed out that Moshe was the greatest of all the nevi’im and no doubt the memories of the nes would always remain real to him, but even so, it would not be the same. You can’t see inspiration on the same level as before. If this is applicable to Moshe Rabbeinu, how much harder must we work to hold on to feelings of hakaras ha’tov, so that when we see a wondrous thing that inspires us to recognize the great gifts that HaKadosh Baruch Hu gives us every day, we won’t have already forgotten it by the next day.

• • •

One night during the War of Independence, R’ Shlomo Brevda—then a young talmid chacham who would later become a famed mashgiach—was walking briskly to a relative’s home when suddenly there was a blackout and he couldn’t see where he was walking. He began to feel his way slowly, but then remembered that in that immediate area there was a very steep staircase. He froze and waited for a while until the lights came back on. When they did, he noticed that had he taken one more step, he would have fallen from such a height that it would have been fatal. He made a commitment that in davening the next morning he would have extra kavanah when saying Modim to thank Hashem for the great miracle.

The next morning, he davened the very same way that he did every day. Afterward, he was very troubled that he hadn’t kept his commitment to focus better on his hoda’ah to Hashem. He was so disturbed by this that he traveled four hours to Bnei Brak to discuss this with the Chazon Ish.

He said, “Rebbe, why do I not feel different and closer to Hashem today than when I woke up yesterday or the day before?” The Chazon Ish responded, “There is a special yetzer ha’ra called ‘the yetzer ha’ra after an open miracle.’ He works to weaken a person when he is stirred to serve Hashem after experiencing a miracle.”

If I could add to the insightful words of the Chazon Ish, how is it possible that we, who are blessed with so many wonderful gifts and berachos every day, find it so difficult to express our hakaras ha’tov to Him for those gifts? The answer is that there is a yetzer ha’ra called the “es kumtz miryetzer ha’ra,” which alters our perceptions to think that we deserve whatever we have and it can never be taken away from us. One can even spend an entire hour on “Rechov Hakaras HaTov” and be inspired by it, only to forget it all the very next day.

As noted earlier, this underlying middah of hakaras ha’tov is the common thread for all the requirements of the month of Tishrei—teshuvah, tefillah, and simcha. For if we truly felt proper hakaras ha’tov to HaKadosh Baruch Hu, then our tefillos would be more heartfelt, our teshuvah more sincere, and our level of simcha exalted.

The reason simchas ha’chaim eludes us is that we feel we deserve everything that life has to offer, and so when we don’t have something that we want, and especially if someone else does have it, it tears at us, and simcha is unattainable. However, if we can focus deeply on hakaras ha’tov, acknowledging that we truly deserve nothing and are grateful for everything that we do have, then our hearts and minds would be filled with a special overwhelming feeling of simchas ha’chaim.

Hakaras ha’tov enhances tefillah, encourages teshuvah, and allows simcha to enter into our lives. This not only makes for happier people and well-adjusted families, it is also, as the Torah instructs us, part of our avodah for the month of Tishrei, the culmination of it all as Zeman Simchaseinu. It allows us to reach the highest level of avodas Hashem that man is capable of in this temporal world. May we and all of Klal Yisrael merit to achieve it.

Wishing all of Klal Yisrael true simchas yom tov.

Those Were The Days

$
0
0
Rabbi Moshe DovBer Rivkin, a’h

Rabbi Moshe DovBer Rivkin, a’h

By Larry Gordon

Er hut zich azoy ois gevaynt.” It was on Rosh Hashanah, during the reading of the haftarah of the first day of the New Year, and Rav Moshe DovBer Rivkin was inconsolable. The reading is from Sefer Shmuel about Shmuel HaNavi’s mother, Chana, who was childless at the time.

She desperately wanted children and beseeched G‑d with a passion and a profound sense of helplessness, hoping that this time He would not be silent, would answer her prayer, and allow her to conceive and give birth to a child.

Chana’s experience and tefillah in the Book of Samuel, our sages tell us, is the baseline of the best manner in which we should pray, in particular on Rosh Hashanah.

The setting for the reading of this haftarah was the library of the Friediker Rebbe, the previous Lubavitcher Rebbe, Rabbi Yosef Yitzchok Schneerson, on the upper floor of Chabad world headquarters at 770 Eastern Parkway in Brooklyn.

I don’t know the specific history of how Rabbi Rivkin, who at the time was a roshyeshiva at Torah Vodaath, was the elder statesman or the leader, so to speak, of this minyan that was only held on the two days of Rosh Hashanah and on Yom Kippur. My father was the ba’alMussaf, and on Yom Kippur the ba’alMussaf and Neilah, as well as the ba’al kriah.

My bother Yossy and I were somewhere between 8 and 14 years old, just there to daven and observe, so that these impressions and memories of special and precious days can last a lifetime.

As a kid, I would marvel and fail to understand how Rabbi Rivkin was not more self-conscious about sobbing uncontrollably in front of so many people. As I got a little older and studied the story he was reading, I began to understand what he was weeping about as he was overcome with emotion.

A friend that I met in the neighborhood the other day asked me if I was going to write this year about my Rosh Hashanah minyan experience at the top of 770. He was referring to an essay on the experience that I reran in these pages several times over the last 15 years. I thought about it for a moment and then decided that I would broach the subject again, but that I needed to reflect additionally on that experience of so long ago and see what I could still conjure up.

I mentioned to this person that it was interesting how Rabbi Rivkin would cry so much each time he read the haftarah even though he knew the story and how it ended from previous years. But that was supposed to be an attempt at a little comedy and nothing more. I knew early on that he wasn’t weeping about the sad story of a childless woman, though there is plenty to lament about those circumstances.

The rabbi was crying because that experience of Chana crying in the Mishkan in Shiloh is representative of what it means to daven effectively and ultimately with success.

As the reader knows, the haftarah recounts how the kohen, Eli, observed Chana with her lips in motion though without any discernible sound. Eli, after watching this scene, said to Chana: “How long will you be drunk? Remove your wine from yourself.” To this Chana retorted, “It is not so, my lord, I am a woman heavy of heart. I have drunk neither new wine nor old wine. But I have poured out my soul before the L‑rd. Do not regard your maidservant as a wicked woman, for it is due to my great distress and vexation that I have been speaking until now.”

Eli replied to these words by saying, “Go in peace and the G‑d of Israel will grant your request which you have asked of Him.” There is more to the haftarah, including the birth of Shmuel and his being dedicated to serve Hashem with rare devotion and fervor all of his life.

As far as I can recall, this was the part of the haftarah at which the rabbi sobbed so much that he could not continue. This story is not only recounted because of the success of Chana’s prayer and the birth of ShmuelHaNavi. From this—as we head into Rosh Hashanah 5776—we understand the formulation and components of not just how to pray, but the all-too-distant reality that if our hearts and minds are in the right place, prayer—especially at this time of year—can take us to high places with our wishes and hopes coming to fruition.

So almost a half-century after those beautiful and innocent days, I wonder what it was that my father was davening about, what was on his mind; perhaps sufficient time has elapsed for me to draw some conclusions about those prayers.

No doubt, as all people do, he prayed for health and happiness, and success in all his and the congregation’s endeavors. And he probably also prayed for nachas from his children and now grandchildren, which now in a different realm I am sure he—and my mom, may she continue to live and be well—is having and enjoying.

In the early years, Rabbi Rivkin was also the one who blew the shofar in this minyan of about 30 or 40 people. I must have been in my teens when he just had no koach to continue. I can recall him making a determined effort to belt out those tekios, but there came a time when he just could not do it anymore. That’s when he handed off the shofar to one of the younger men in the shul, who stepped up and right into his appointed role and blew with a youthful, authoritative vigor, signaling an unexpected changing of the guard. From that day forward, it was the new younger man who kept the shofar with him in his tallis bag—the job, so to speak, was his.

I relive these moments so as to take a cerebral tour with you of a Rosh Hashanah past, which I could have just as easily done by searching my document file and presenting the original piece that I wrote on this subject a decade or more ago. But if I’d done that, I wouldn’t have had to think back and recall some of these special moments of the past, which, when I picture them, come up not just fresh, but alive in my mind’s eye.

The Friediker Rebbe’s room was relatively small. It was surrounded on four sides by glass-enclosed bookshelves packed with sefarim. The glass doors were locked; I never saw them open. This took place in the 1960s and early ’70s, though the Rebbe had passed away in 1950. Rabbi Yosef Yitzchok Schneerson was not a well man, and on Shabbos and yomtov, because he was in a wheelchair, he could not descend to the main minyan in 770. He suffered with multiple sclerosis and then toward the end of his life had a stroke and lost his ability to speak.

But as history has recorded, and despite his infirmities and difficulties, he was a man of great vision with a fierce determination to rework the American spiritual landscape and bring Jewish education and Torah to a land that many perceived as being a material oasis and an opportunity to establish new lives free of what many saw as the constricts of Jewish religious life.

America iz nisht andrish,” he was wont to say. It was his credo, his battle cry that his son-in-law, the next Rebbe, would carry on. That is, “America is no different.” That which worked and took hold in Europe 1,000 or more years could be transplanted, cultivated, and successfully grown here in the New World in the United States of America.

And a great deal of those battle plans were developed right up there in these rooms where the Rebbe lived, worked, studied, and prayed, which in retrospect were all one and the same. The history is deep and rich, and I glean bits of it from what I hear from people and what I read in some of the books about Chabad that have been on the market for a few years now.

My father davened smoothly, with earnestness and an understanding of the task at hand. To me it looked like he was satisfied with his life and what he had accomplished. He approached the task of leading this minyan in these hallowed environs with both seriousness and a businesslike nonchalance.

These are not just the memories alone but the lessons of Rosh Hashanah—that despite the hardening of a generation, we should not be afraid to break ourselves down to the point where we can attach ourselves to our all-powerful G‑d.

Rabbi Rivkin didn’t cry only because the story of Chana was a sad one. He wept so uncontrollably because those biblical events provided a key and a conduit to the understanding of how despite our personal circumstances, we possess the ability to break through and evoke a clear response to our heartfelt tefillos on Rosh Hashanah.

The story is told about a wealthy chassid who came to the Rebbe before yom tov for a berachah. He was getting older and experiencing some health issues. Before the Rebbe could bless him, the chassid told the Rebbe that in the year ahead he would not mind if he had a little less parnassah but better health.

The Rebbe listened intently to the chassid’s request, but then admonished him, saying that the Creator of the Universe, Our Al‑mighty G‑d, does not have to make deals like that. “Hashem has the ability to give you the maximum and the best of both.”

Let us all hope and pray for that type of uncompromising beneficence and magnanimity from the One Above in the New Year ahead. Shanahtovah to all.

Comments for Larry Gordon are welcome at editor@5tjt.com.

 

The Agunah Wars Have Begun

$
0
0
Rabbi Simcha Krauss

Rabbi Simcha Krauss

Halachic Musings

By Rabbi Yair Hoffman

It seems to be developing into the mother of all halachic controversies.

It began in 2014, when Rabbi Simcha Krauss admirably launched an international beis din to deal with the problem of agunos. Rav Krauss is an eminent talmidchacham and, initially, he sought the approval of Rav Zalman Nechemiah Goldberg, one of the leading poskim of the generation.

But then Rav Goldberg pulled out, after a fundamental disagreement with the methods that the beisdin was using. Rav Hershel Schachter, a universally recognized expert in halachah, was shown a few of the beis din’s innovative halachic methods and penned a letter against them. Now 100 rabbis, none of them known for advanced expertise in halachah, have signed a letter denouncing Rav Schachter.

Rav Schachter’s letter is reproduced in English translation below:

To my brethren, friends, and students of rabbis in each and every city:

A number of months ago an international beis din was established to deal with matters concerning agunos. Approximately two months ago, I reviewed a 23-page response written in Hebrew on the matter of agency for the writing of a Get against the will of the husband. It was written by one of the members of that beis din. It is error-laden from beginning to end. Also, another response written in English, four pages in length, was brought before me to permit an agunah based on the Ritva’s well-known view regarding a relative or invalid witness.

This is neither the path, nor the city (see Melachim II 6:19).

The commandment against adultery is not like the laws of mourning that we can say, the halachah is in accordance with the lenient view, where one may always be lenient even in any doubt. Our sages have ruled that in any place where there is chillul Hashem, we do not stand upon the honor due to a rabbi.

I personally feel an obligation to protest the matter, for otherwise the public will say that from the fact that the rabbis are silent, we can infer that they are in favor of it. Students will see this and establish it as halachah for generations.

It is a matter of great chutzpah that three rabbis have joined this beis din. For such weighty matters, to permit a woman without a Get, they would bring before the Gaon Rav Yitzchok Elchonon [Spector]. After him they were brought before HaGaon Rav Chaim Ozer [Grodzinsky]. In our generation, they were brought before HaGaon Rav Moshe Feinstein. They were recognized as truly the greatest of the generation. It is forbidden for general rabbis to involve themselves in matters such as this. For one who is not fully proficient in matters of Gittin and Kiddushin should not have dealings with them. In our generation, these matters are presented before extraordinary scholars who are well-versed in these matters and who have shimush with gedolim and who have a mesorah in what matters we may be lenient and in what matters not to be.

I have come here to encourage my friends and students not to rely upon any halachic ruling that emanates from the aforementioned beis din, for they are not to be relied upon. I have heard that one of the three rabbis has resigned from the beis din. I have requested that the other two also remove their hand from this terrible business from now on. They should inform the masses that no one may rely upon the leniencies that they have already signed upon, since their entire path is not in accordance with halachah.

[Rav] Tzvi Schachter, Tammuz 5775

The letter received the following addenda by other prominent rabbis across the country:

“I too agree with the above-mentioned protest with full force.”

—[Rav] Gedaliah Dov Schwartz, 21 Tammuz 5775

“It is extraneous to add that there is no ruling and no judge here, rather the nonsense of fools who have appointed themselves authorities.”

—[Rav] Nota Tzvi Greenblatt,
Memphis, 22 Tammuz 5775

“The words of the above giants are clear in law and in practice, and I also join in their objection.”

—[Rav] Avrohom Michael Union, 26 Tammuz 5775

“I too join in objecting to this brazen breach.”

—[Rav] Menachem Mendel
Senderovitz, 3 Av 5775

The IBD And Halachah

The IBD (International Beit Din) rabbis are opting for a rather controversial method of relieving the problem of “chained” wives. They are granting “Jewish annulments” of the original marriage.

The issue, however, is mired in controversy, where leading rabbis are aghast at both the ease and the extent of the annulments being granted. Yet there are now, believe it or not, hundreds, if not thousands, of women walking around with these “Jewish annulments.” Some of the rabbis who grant these annulments do so quietly, and warn the woman not to reveal the actual basis for her “ability to remarry.”

The Rationale

The rationale for the granting of such annulments is predicated upon the idea that the original marriage was conducted in error. The argument is that the woman was misled and was entirely unaware of crucial details about her husband-to-be. “Had she known about her husband’s issues,” the argument goes, “she would never have gone forward with the marriage.”

This is known as the argument of “mekach ta’us—an erroneous contract,” or having contracted the marriage erroneously, a concept discussed in a Mishnah in tractate Kesubos (7:8) and further elaborated upon in the Gemara (Kesubos 73b).

Yet what is not told to the masses is that the criteria for annulment of a marriage are far more stringent than for any regular business transaction. Even in previous times, to annul such a marriage two elements were required—a mumgadol, a serious blemish, in the husband, and something else called an “umdana d’muchach, a thoroughly compelling indication” that no woman would wish to live with such an individual (see Beis HaLevi Vol. III #3 for a discussion of this point).

Clearly, this blows out of the water most claims to having contracted the marriage erroneously. The Gemara further explains that even though, in theory, the specific erroneous contractual issues brought up in the Gemara would annul the obligation to pay the kesubah, a get would still be required, because of either a rabbinic stringency or on account of doubt regarding a biblical requirement.

What the IBD seems to be doing is creating both such elements in the fact that the husband is refusing the granting of a divorce. But, like it or not, the fact is that society as a whole never encouraged easy, no-fault divorce until recent times. Within Jewish society and where the normative application of Jewish law was employed, divorces were not simply handed out whenever a woman just wanted out of a marriage. Thus, the use of this new mum gadol and umdana d’muchach is somewhat dubious in the eyes of numerous poskim.

Two Limiting Factors

Furthermore, the argument of mekach ta’us, even to the advocates of liberal use of these annulments, is further limited by two factors:

1. If the wife knew about the husband’s issue and willingly accepted it, then she may not avail herself of the argument.

2. There is a rationale presented by Rabbi Shimon ben Lakish that the Talmud itself accepts (See Bava Kamma 110b) which severely limits the argument of “I would never have gone forward with the marriage.”

As far as the first factor, if the wife continued living with the husband after discovering the husband’s issue, it would be considered as tantamount to acceptance (see Rambam, Laws of Sale 15:3).

We will elaborate upon this second limitation later in this essay, but at this point it must be stated that the opinions of the major contemporary poskim can be divided into three general categories.

Three Positions
Among The Poskim

Category A. Those poskim who entirely forbid any form of annulment in modern times, even when there is makomigun—where the woman would otherwise be unable to remarry. These include Dayan Yitzchok Weiss, zt’l (Minchas Yitzchok); Dayan Yechezkel Roth, shlita; Rav Yitzchok Isaac Liebes (Beis Avi III #135); Rav Chaim Berlin, zt’l; and Rav Yoseph Eliyahu Henkin, zt’l. Indeed, Dayan Roth is so strongly supportive of this position, that he states that there is a possibility of mamzeirus when an annulment was made and the woman subsequently remarried and had children. The halachicposkim this author consulted from both factions of Satmar (the Reb Zalman faction and the Reb Aharon faction) in the United States are also of the opinion that any form of annulment is completely forbidden and would produce mamzeirim.

There are also poskim who, it seems, fit into category A by the way they handle aspects of questions that are related to the question. Rav Yaakov Breisch (Chelkas Yaakov III #114) fits into this category as well.

Category B. Those poskim who permit the annulment of a Jewish marriage under certain circumstances and only in combination with other mitigating halachic factors. The latter point is crucial. Category B poskim only allow an annulment if they can combine the “mekach ta’us, erroneous contract” argument with another mitigating factor, or even several other factors.

This category includes Rav Elyashiv (see Yeshurun Vol. XIX pp. 518-520); Rav Tzvi Pesach Frank (Har Tzvi EH #204); Rav Ovadia Yosef (Yabia Omer Vol. VII #7); and Rav Chaim Ozer Grodzinsky, zt’l.

Category C. Those poskim who permit and would grant an annulment solely on the basis of the notion of mekachta’us, an erroneous contract. These include Rav Moshe Feinstein, zt’l (see, for example, Igros Moshe EH IV #13); Rav Avrohom Aharon Yudelevitz; and possibly Rav Yaakov Yechiel Weinberg, zt’l.

The New Reality

An analysis of post-Talmudic responsa will show that, in the past, mekachta’us was enough of a rationale by itself to annul a marriage, according to many poskim. Nonetheless, on account of various social and economic factors, the view of most contemporary poskim is that this heter, or leniency, must be discontinued. What factors, nowadays, have caused the change in mekachta’us? The Netziv presents the idea that if there is significant financial benefit for the woman in being married, as was the case in the Netziv’s time, then by no means may the marriage be annulled through the mechanism of mekachta’us—erroneous transaction.

What are other additional factors that can possibly be added to the issue of mekachta’us? They range from a negation in the validity of one of the original witnesses, a possibility that the husband was born with a congenital abnormality that affects his ability to sire progeny, or a number of other factors.

Recent Cases

There have been a number of cases in recent years where one posek issued a ruling of annulment only to find that a greater gadol overturned the ruling and demanded that the first posek retract his leniency. Many of these cases, apparently, involve a Category B posek who disagrees with the ability to follow the methodology of a Category C posek. In one particular case, after the original posek retracted the lenient ruling, the get was ultimately issued—but only after the husband successfully extorted vast sums of money from the wife’s family.

The existence of such extortion within our midst, the ever-growing divorce rate within our community, the dangerous development of the proliferation of wholesale annulments, and the events of the past few months within the Torah community require some serious rethinking as to how we should proceed. Inaction has caused some serious repercussions.

The repercussions lie in three main areas: Firstly, the pain and suffering on the part of a growing number of agunos. Secondly, it leads to an acceptance of out-and-out extortion, and thus fosters an unfortunate moral decline within our communities. Thirdly, and perhaps the repercussion with the most lasting significance, is the proliferation of mamzerim within KlalYisrael, Hashemyerachem.

Rav Herschel Schachter, a leading American posek, in his letter reproduced above, states that the permission to undo a marriage cannot be unilaterally exercised by rabbis who are neither the leading scholars of the generation nor poskim fully versed in the laws of gittin and kiddushin.

It is also well known that Rav Schachter has been a strong advocate for agunos for decades. His concern can best be understood with a parable. In the United States, there are numerous illegal immigrants who are extremely eager to receive immigration papers. Unfortunately, there are lawyers who are providing these immigrants with papers. The problem is that the United States government is not recognizing these papers.

Conclusion

Though well-meaning, the actions of the IBD can cause a serious rift within Judaism in that most halachic authorities view such annulments as invalid. Any future offspring of those granted these annulments would be veritable pariahs in Orthodox Jewish society. Any honest evaluation of what is transpiring here would yield the undeniable conclusion that the IBD is sentencing the descendants of these women to a pariah status within KlalYisrael.

Clearly some other solution is needed. v

The author can be reached at
Yairhoffman2@gmail.com.

 

Show Me The Money

$
0
0
Rabbi Marc Schneier

Rabbi Marc Schneier

Gov. Mike Huckabee

Gov. Mike Huckabee

Rep. Carolyn Maloney

Rep. Carolyn Maloney

By Larry Gordon

Over this summer, no fewer than six candidates for the Republican nomination for president of the United States have appeared at and spoken from the pulpit of the Westhampton Synagogue of Rabbi Marc Schneier.

Those who made such an appearance run the gamut from leading contenders like Jeb Bush to those not faring so well in the early polls like Senator Lindsey Graham.

So why do they appear here? Is it because the shul’s pews are occupied by movers and shakers of the New York Jewish community and beyond? Or is it because this small area, like other summertime Hampton hamlets, is where the money is, and in these political races money translates to popularity, and being popular and visible transforms itself into much-needed votes that win and lose elections?

These events are a testament to what Rabbi Schneier has built here, as his shul is considered the place to be if one is to appear on the map of the Jewish world.

This past Shabbos, we traveled to Westhampton with our friends Joe and Karen Frager in order to accompany Governor Mike Huckabee to the shul, where he was a dinner guest on Friday night and then following the seudah spoke to a jam-packed crowd.

Dr. Joe Frager—whose column appears in these pages from time to time—is a levelheaded political activist seeking to assist candidates like Huckabee. As he explains it, “It is a matter of hakarasha’tov.”

If you have attended other Huckabee events or heard him speak on his Fox News talk show, which he had to leave in order to run for president, then you know there is no formidable candidate running for America’s top office who cares more deeply about Israel than this former governor of Arkansas.

Unlike other candidates, who either have made or will make compulsory, perfunctory visits to Israel in order to be seen with Prime Minister Netanyahu and other Israeli officials, Mr. Huckabee has been in Israel annually and sometimes several times a year for the last three decades. Governor Huckabee brings to the table an intimate appreciation of the U.S.–Israel relationship that is more than a way to attract Jewish votes or to say what needs to be said in order to curry favor with the American Jewish community.

And Governor Huckabee reiterated and made it clear that the Iran deal about to be passed into law by Congress is one of the greatest foreign-policy blunders this country has ever made.

The next day—on Shabbos—we heard from Manhattan Congresswoman Carolyn Maloney, who had the courage and fortitude last week to take a stand and announce that she would vote against the Iran deal when it comes up for a vote—which it may or may not over the next week or so.

Maloney said that she had studied the deal and had attended confidential briefings and concluded that this was a bad deal for the U.S. and our allies in the Middle East. She said she thought that the inspection mechanism was severely flawed and that large sums of money—with which the Iranians have said they will continue to support terror in troubled spots of the world, including places like Lebanon and Gaza—are freed up too easily.

Which brings us to this question: How can people like Carolyn Maloney and our Nassau County Congresswoman Kathleen Rice study the exact same material and attend the same high-level briefings and draw completely opposite conclusions from those arrived at recently by New York Congressmen Jerrold Nadler and Gregory Meeks?

It is mind-boggling that these two men can announce that they feel that the deal is not a good one but is the best one out there, which in and of itself is a ridiculous assertion. There is something rotten here when Nadler and Meeks can say they know that upwards of $100 billion will be freed up for Iran to use at its discretion—which the Iranians themselves say means continuing to support terror groups—but then go ahead and announce that they will cast their votes for the deal anyway.

It’s odd, but these two officials and others who share their views are for strict gun-control legislation, especially of late, in view of the spate of shootings and murders in mostly minority communities. They insist that guns are too easily available and stricter laws must implement a more rigorous process for those buying a gun. At the other end of the spectrum, in mostly Republican circles, the position is that it is not guns that kill but rather it is either bad or mentally unbalanced people—and that is the issue that needs to be addressed. Those harboring this opinion feel that people bent on committing a crime or indulging in evil will somehow figure out how to get their hands on a gun illegally.

The funny thing here is that when it comes to Iran, the Obama and Democratic position is to allow the Iranians to continue to develop nuclear weapons and over the next few years allow them to build a conventional-weapons arsenal as well. The thought process at play here is that allowing them to have guns and other advanced weaponry will win over some good faith from the rogue and terrorist mullahs that call for the destruction of Israel.

It has already been long demonstrated that supplying weapons to terrorists will result only in facilitating more terror. Case in point was Israel’s 1993 Oslo Accords, where logic was turned on its head when the government led by Yitzchak Rabin and Shimon Peres decided to furnish the Palestinian Authority with weapons—mostly guns—that they previously had no legal access to. Then Palestinian leader Yasser Arafat distributed the guns amongst the terrorist factions in Judea and Samaria and rebranded the terrorists as policemen.

Those same guns and other weaponry killed hundreds of Jews over the next two decades. How can we expect a different or more innovative outcome by applying the same formula with Iran? Giving munitions to terrorists does not change who they are or how they operate.

So how can the different politicians receive the same information and draw diametrically opposite conclusions? At times like this, when you reach a dead end in the logic department, follow the money trail if you want to make any sense of a situation.

All the talk about nuclear arsenals, spinning centrifuges, and intercontinental ballistic missiles has obscured the central component of the deal with Iran. According to a source in government in Washington who cannot be directly quoted because of the relationship with senators and congressmen, this deal and which way the votes broke were mostly about money.

According to our government source, the U.S. is the largest supplier of wheat to both Russia and Iran. Because of the effectiveness of the sanctions and the drop in oil prices, Iran now owes the U.S. over $100 billion. They owe additional billions to the Russians for weaponry, both from past shipments and on order for future delivery. Then there are Iranian entities and institutions which, with a little research, show up as groups donating to election campaigns of various congressmen and senators. Even a small fraction of $100 billion can go a long way in an election campaign.

Consummating the deal with Iran is only the beginning of some tough times for elected officials who defied conventional logic by saying that they were in favor of the deal and if need be would vote for it.

We owe a debt of gratitude to those who stood their ground against intense political pressure and economic threats. It is an American tragedy that seasoned elected representatives can take into consideration ancillary factors other than the danger posed to the world by a nuclear Iran.

Comments for Larry Gordon are welcome at editor@5tjt.com.

 

Happy Days At HAFTR

$
0
0

HAFTR - Class HAFTR - Girls learning together HAFTR - Little Girl HAFTR - Older classStudents eagerly ran to begin their new school year at HAFTR. The engaging teachers welcomed the children to the colorful and fun facilities to enjoy time with their friends as they learn new things, share ideas, and experience the hands-on approach to education that HAFTR employs.

 


An Enchanted Evening: Haym Salomon Celebrates New Rehab Center

$
0
0

Haym Salomon 006 copy Haym Salomon 040 copy Haym Salomon 135 copy Haym Salomon 173 copy Haym Salomon 243 copyBy Rochelle Maruch Miller

It was the perfect culmination of a gorgeous summer: a lavish red-carpet event held at the magnificent new penthouse of the Haym Salomon Home for Nursing and Rehabilitation. On that enchanted evening, over 350 elected officials, community leaders, hospital executives, directors, case managers, and members of the media gathered to celebrate the unveiling of the spectacular all-new Grandview Pavilion Rehabilitation Center.

Located on the eighth floor of the acclaimed Brooklyn facility, the expansive addition is magnificent in both style and size. Featuring breathtaking ocean views, residents will be able to rehabilitate in tranquil settings while enjoying the high standards of care that have earned Haym Salomon its well-deserved reputation for excellence.

Guests at the event, held on Tuesday, September 8, enjoyed a sumptuous five-star buffet, an open bar with white-glove service, and elegant monogrammed giveaways.

The upscale evening began with a cocktail reception followed by an official ribbon-cutting. Among the program’s highlights were opening remarks by facility co-owner Olga Lipschitz, who delivered a powerful speech about her aspirations for Haym Salomon, and Rabbi Jonathan Rietti, who, in a nod to the stunning vistas of the beautiful new pavilion, discussed the importance of living in the moment and enjoying the blessings surrounding us daily.

Guests also enjoyed a full array of first-rate entertainment, including a reenactment of Haym Salomon’s pre-Revolutionary War era, a strolling magician, a 60-second novelist, and an exciting contest held on the facility’s new social-media pages, featuring high-end electronic prizes. A Donald Trump impersonator had the crowd mesmerized and, as a “master builder,” he gave his stamp of approval.

New York State Assemblyman Bill Colton praised Haym Salomon for its many years of service and noted that the new pavilion would further enhance the experience for residents at the facility.

“This is something that really indicates service and care of people,” said Colton. “The view that you have from this floor is one that is going to be tremendously helpful to people who have disabilities, people who have had some hard times, to now be able to recover and be restored.”

“Haym Salomon was established 50 years ago on Manhattan’s Lower East Side by a group of Jewish people, all Holocaust survivors,” Chaim Lipschitz, the facility’s administrator, told the 5TJT. “My mother, Mrs. Olga Lipschitz, became owner in 1992, with the goal of helping elderly Jewish people. Under her leadership, a new, beautiful state-of-the-art building was built, affording patients state-of-the-art rehabilitation equipment in a tranquil environment, against a magnificent water-view setting. We feel that this is half of the therapy.”

He added, “We have a dedicated staff, headed by Dr. Albert Khaski, our medical director, who is a consummate professional and a real ‘mensch’—a dedicated, devoted doctor who knows each and every patient and is accessible to all. All of our staff—doctors, nurses, therapists, and social workers—are outstanding. We are in this to help people. We feel that because people are living longer, we want to improve the quality of their lives. This is why we built this special rehabilitation center; it is the largest of its kind in New York.”

Haym Salomon designed their short-term rehabilitation program with younger patients in mind. Whether you are there after joint-replacement surgery, an accident, or a hospital stay for an illness, their excellent physical, occupational, and speech-therapy program will help restore your ability to function. Their licensed therapists can administer therapy six times per week for up to four hours a day. They will make sure you receive the maximum amount of therapy, with state-of-the-art technology and equipment, so you can get back to the life you loved. They specialize in rehabilitation therapy for joint-replacement patients.

Who you are as a person is of paramount importance at Haym Salomon. Your injury or illness does not define you. Their individualized rehabilitation programs are centered on your medical needs, current abilities, and goals so you can recover quickly. As well, they provide healthy lifestyle education and give you the resources, tools, and ability to make choices that will keep you active and enjoying life to the fullest.

At Haym Salomon, your medical team collaborates to develop a unified treatment program. They ensure that every aspect of your care is coordinated to achieve the best care, health, diagnosis, and treatment plan for the best recovery results possible. You needn’t worry about fragmented treatment at Haym Salomon. Among their on-site specialists are neurologists, cardiologists, oncologists, and urologists. They communicate with and confer with each other, with you, and with your family about each aspect of your treatment plan. Your health is monitored by Dr. Albert Khaski, medical director of Haym Salomon, a board-certified cardiologist and internist with over 30 years of experience in caring for a geriatric population. He is well acquainted with every patient and is vigilant about the wellbeing of each patient.

Good nursing is a top priority at Haym Salomon so that you can recover quickly. To that end, each of their nurses meets rigorous criteria for excellence, diligence, and dedication to patient care. The facility is fully staffed at all times, ensuring that every patient receives responsive, compassionate care, day or night.

From treating complicated medical conditions to administering IV therapy and pain management, their talented nursing staff, including nurse practitioners, registered nurses, licensed practical nurses, and certified nursing assistants, receives the ongoing training and education they need to stay abreast of the most advanced clinical skills and practices.

“We hope that this will be the beginning of a very successful rehabilitation for those people who really need it and that it will bring a lot of good luck and joy to the community,” said Mrs. Lipschitz. “Hopefully, all those who cross our doors will go out healthy and happy.”

Chaim Lipschitz adds, “Haym Salomon is a place to consider for anyone who needs to recover in a heimishe environment in a highly professional, state-of-the-art, and beautiful setting. For short-term rehabilitation patients, recovery is very quick, and the addition of this new room greatly enhances and facilitates the recovery process by making it an enjoyable and relaxing experience.”

Haym Salomon Home for Nursing and Rehabilitation is co-owned by Olga Lipschitz and Samuel Paneth. The facility is located at 2340 Cropsey Avenue, Brooklyn, NY 11224. For further information, please call 718-373-1700.

From The Chassidic Masters: Passive Labor

$
0
0

One of the greatest paradoxes of a life of faith concerns the need to work for a living. If G‑d is the source of all blessings, why toil to earn a livelihood? And if we do work, how can we avoid the thought that it is our labor alone that produces material results? We seem torn between absolute passivity and the denial of G‑d’s involvement in the world.

Thus the believer engages in what can be termed “passive labor.” In the opening verses of Parashas Vayakheil, Moshe instructs the people of Israel: Six days shall work be done; but on the seventh day there shall be to you a holy day, a Sabbath of Sabbaths to G‑d . . .

Not “Six days shall you work,” but “Six days shall work be done.” The passive form suggests that even during the week’s six workdays, when the Jew is permitted and obligated to work, he should be occupied, but not preoccupied by his material endeavors.

This is how Chassidic teaching interprets the verse (Tehillim 128:2), “If you will eat the labor of your hands, you will be happy and it will be well with you.” What King David is implying, say the Chassidic masters, is that the labor in which a person engages for his material needs (so that “you will eat”) should be only “of your hands”—an activity of the outer man, not an inward involvement. One’s “hands” and “feet” should attend to one’s material endeavors, while one’s thoughts and feelings remain bound up with G‑dly things. This is the same concept as that implied by the verse, “Six days shall work be done.” One does not do the work; it is “done,” as if of its own accord. The heart and mind are elsewhere, and only the person’s practical faculties are engaged in the work.

The Jew works not to “make a living,” but only to fashion a k’li (“vessel”) to receive G‑d’s blessings. This is what the Torah means when it says, “And the L‑rd your G‑d will bless you in all that you do.” Man is not sustained by his own efforts, but through G‑d’s blessing; it is only that G‑d desires that His blessing should realize itself in and through “all that you do.” Man’s work merely provides a natural channel for the Divine blessing of sustenance, and man must at all times remember that it is no more than a channel. Though his hands prepare the channel, his mind and heart must remain focused on the source of the blessing.

The Chassidic masters take this a step further. In truth, they say, man should really not be allowed to work at all. For of G‑d it is said, “I fill the heavens and the earth,” and “The whole earth is full of His glory.” The proper response to the ever-present nature of G‑d would be to stand in absolute passivity. To do otherwise would be to be guilty of what the Talmud calls “making gestures before the king.” If a person standing in the presence of a king were to do anything other than devote his attention to the king, he would surely forfeit his life. So it is only because the Torah itself permits, indeed commands, “Six days shall work be done” and “The L‑rd your G‑d will bless you in all that you do,” that work is permissible and desirable. But to go beyond the level of involvement sanctioned by the Torah—beyond the “passive labor” of making a “vessel”—that would be, in the first place, to show a lack of faith that human sustenance comes from G‑d; and secondly, it would be “making gestures before the king”—an act of rebellion in the face of G‑d.

The Double Shabbos

This explains the phrase “Shabbos Shabboson”—“a Sabbath of Sabbaths”—used by Moshe in the above verses. Shabbos is not a day of rest following six days of active labor. Rather, it is a “Sabbath of Sabbaths,” a Shabbos following six days that are themselves “sabbaths” of sorts—days of passive labor, in which one’s work only engages one’s external self, with the true focus of one’s attention in a higher place.

Indeed, a true day of rest can only be one that follows such a week. Citing the verse “Six days you shall labor, and do all your work,” the Sages say: “On the Shabbos, a person should regard himself as if all his work were complete.” This is true rest—rest in which one is utterly free of all workday concerns. If, however, during the six days a person had been preoccupied with material concerns, on the seventh day anxieties will invade him; even if his body ceases work, his mind would not be at rest. On the other hand, if he has given his work its proper place during the week, the light of Shabbos will illuminate him, and it will be Shabbos Shabboson—a Shabbos twice over. For Shabbos will then permeate his whole week, and when the day itself arrives it will have a double sanctity.

The Day After Yom Kippur

This also explains the context in which Moshe addresses the above verses to the assembled congregation of Israel.

Our Sages elaborate on how the building of the Mishkan (Tabernacle) atoned for and rectified the sin of the Golden Calf. Ostensibly similar (both the Calf and the Mishkan were a “consecration” of physical matter, particularly gold), the Mishkan was, in truth, the very opposite of the Calf: the Golden Calf was a deification of the material, while the Mishkan was a subjugation of the material to serve the Divine. So on the day after the first Yom Kippur, immediately following G‑d’s full forgiveness of Israel’s sin, Moshe conveyed G‑d’s instructions to the people to build Him a “dwelling place” in their midst; that very day, the people donated their gold, silver, and copper to the making of the Mishkan.

First, however, Moshe gathered the people of Israel and commanded them in G‑d’s name: “Six days shall work be done; but on the seventh day there shall be to you a holy day, a Sabbath of Sabbaths to G‑d . . .” This implies that, like the Mishkan, this commandment is a refutation of, and atonement for, the sin of idolatry.

Rambam traces the origins of idolatry to the fact that Divine providence is channeled through natural forces and objects. The original idolaters recognized that the sun, moon, and stars derived their power to nourish the earth from G‑d, yet they attached Divine significance to them. Their error was to regard them as objects of worship, whereas they are no more than the instruments of G‑d, like “an ax in the hands of the hewer.”

In a certain sense, the excessive preoccupation with business and the material world is also a form of idolatry. For this, too, involves the error of attaching significance to what is no more than a vessel or channel of Divine blessing. The materialist’s preoccupation with material things is a form of bowing the head, of misplaced worship. Only when a person sees his workday effort for what it truly is—a way of creating a natural channel for the blessings of G‑d—will his work take the passive form and the focus of his thoughts be on G‑d alone.

This is how idolatry—whether in its overt or its more subtle forms—is atoned for. Six days of passive work—in the sense of mental detachment and the realization that human work is only an instrument of G‑d—culminating in and inspired by a “Sabbath of Sabbaths” that focuses utterly on the source of our blessings are the corrective for and the denial of the instincts of idolatry.

Excerpted from Torah Studies (Kehot 1986), an adaptation of the Lubavitcher Rebbe’s talks by Britain’s Chief Rabbi, Dr. Jonathan Sacks. Visit www.chabad.org/parshah for more Torah articles for the whole family.

Pursue Peace

$
0
0

By Five Towns Marriage Initiative

Moshe Rabbeinu went from tent to tent in the encampment of the Jewish nation, speaking words of peace to the families in each tent. The Kli Yakar explains that because one is required to seek and pursue peace, it is unlike other commandments. With respect to other commandments, such as tzitzis, mezuzah, or challah, we are obligated to fulfill these mitzvos as we come across them, but we aren’t asked to actively seek these opportunities.

Bringing peace between man and his fellow helps to facilitate repentance, which brings peace between man and his Creator. In some situations, a person might not realize that he is doing something wrong, but an objective outsider may be able to put the matter in perspective and guide him towards a peaceful resolution.

Another reason we are exhorted to actively pursue peace is our responsibility for one another. In this vein, our Sages teach us that repentance is so great that one person who repents can cause Hashem to forgive him and the entire world along with him. When we are at peace with each other, we forge a double connection: we demonstrate our responsibility to our fellow Jews, and we also enable repentance and forgiveness. Both aspects lead to the ultimate peace—between man and his Creator.

Opportunities to actively pursue peace are within our reach on a daily basis. Each time we come home at the end of a long day, we have an opportunity to actively pursue peace with our spouses. We can choose to say something kind or, if we aren’t careful, to complain. In each conversation with our spouses, we can choose peace, starting the conversation with a nice word or a compliment. Every interaction with our spouses throughout the day is a chance to fulfill this unique commandment of pursuing peace, which should be the cornerstone of a Jewish home.

The major defining criterion of the home is referred to as “shalombayis,” or “a house at peace.” Clearly we don’t mean that the walls of the home must be at peace with each other; it’s the couple living in the home who must live harmoniously. The husband and wife set the tone in their home. When there is peace, all those living in the house can sense it, allowing them to go calmly about their day. When there is strife, anger, and discord, everyone in the house walks around on tiptoes, fearful of setting off trouble. Everyone feels tense and nervous when the lack of peace between a couple permeates the whole atmosphere of the home.

Marriage cannot remain in stagnation. We are either heading towards harmony or we are heading towards strife and discord. With every interaction, we must choose harmony, shalombayis. We need to actively pursue peace if we hope to truly attain and maintain it. May we have much success in creating a harmonious environment together with our spouses and work ever harder this year to make peace our reality!

Five Towns Marriage Initiative provides educational programs, workshops, and referrals to top marriage therapists. FTMI will help offset counseling costs when necessary and also runs an anonymous shalom bayis hotline for the entire community Sunday, Tuesday, and Thursday evenings, 10:00–11:00 p.m. For the hotline or for more information, call 516-430-5280 or e‑mail dsgarry@msn.com.

Soaring To The Heavens, Yom-Kippur Style

$
0
0

By Sandy Eller

Eve of 11 Tishrei 5774—Today I was an angel. Not for the whole day, maybe not even for an entire hour, but there were moments today when I managed to somehow rise to a level that I didn’t even know existed. It was easier today than most days, because today was Yom Kippur.

I confess that while there are people who look forward to Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, those days fill me with dread. I am working on that—I know it isn’t a good thing. I don’t mind the long hours in shul, the davening that sometimes seem endless. I mind having to take responsibility for the countless times over the past 12 months when I have messed up, whether intentionally or totally by accident. I wish I could pretend that I were a better person and that those misdeeds never occurred, but it just isn’t true.

Yet a funny thing happens when Rosh Hashanah rolls around. You are standing in shul, and if you are lucky, you are listening to a great ba’al tefillah who really gets you to connect with the words you are saying. Suddenly, you aren’t uttering words while thinking something completely different. Your mind and your mouth are working together and, with the help of a really beautiful niggun, everything clicks. There is nothing in your head except the davening and the words you are saying, and for just an instant, the world drops away and you realize that your body and your neshamah are totally in tune with each other.

I was struck by an epiphany on Rosh Hashanah this year, one that seems so obvious, I don’t know why it took me so many years to figure it out. Standing in shul, holding my two-week-old grandson, it struck me that I was singing a niggun that my grandparents probably sang in Europe as well, and here I was, singing it to their great-great-grandson. It should come to me as no surprise that I am a link in a very long chain that is baruch Hashem continuing to grow; but at that moment, I really understood for the first time how all that we do and all that we are is centuries old, and we continue to pass that on to the next generation, so that one day they can transmit that same mesorah to their grandkids.

In another awesome moment, I got to be the first person to whisper the words “Yehei Shmei Rabbah” in my grandson’s ears. He will hear those words innumerable times throughout his life, but the first time he heard them was from me. Call me crazy, but as long as they are clean and well-behaved, I believe in bringing babies to shul. Let them hear the words of Kaddish and Kedushah from their earliest days so that it becomes part of who they are. Handing my new grandson to my son-in-law so that he could take the baby under his tallis during duchaning for the first time in his life as a father? Also a moment that ranks up there as something I don’t ever want to forget.

I woke up erev Yom Kippur with a sense of dread. This is it. No more stalling. No more playing around. It’s time to face the music.

But when the music came, in the form of Kol Nidrei and all the other tefillos, I discovered something incredible. The opportunity to take responsibility for our actions on an annual basis—to check in with G‑d, ask his forgiveness, reevaluate our priorities, beg for mercy, place our requests, and think about what we are going to do to become a better person—is an incredible gift. The idea that once a year, we get to stop, take responsibility for our misdeeds, learn from them, and then start fresh may be frightening and may leave some pages in my Machzor slightly damp, but it gives us the chance to leave everything behind and really connect with the One Above.

Somewhere along the way, I realized that while davening normally doesn’t come easily to me and concentration is beyond elusive, on Yom Kippur it is effortless. We are intensely focused on only one thing: connecting with G‑d. And in those moments, when we alternate between asking for forgiveness, acknowledging the majesty of Hashem, and davening for ourselves, our family members, our friends, relatives, and even total strangers, there is nothing between us and our Siddurim. We are completely and totally in sync. By the time we were midway through Ne’ilah, reciting the Yud Gimmel Middos again and again, I could have sworn that, much like when Dorothy’s house is lifted by the twister in the Wizard of Oz, our entire shul was no longer tethered to the ground but was airborne, making its way higher and higher in the heavenly realms as we chanted the age-old words again and again.

I know that when I pick up my Siddur to daven tomorrow, marshaling my thoughts in the right direction is going to be a challenge, one I have yet to conquer.

But today, just for a few hours, buoyed by the kedushah of the holiest day of the year, I was an angel. v

Sandy Eller is a freelance writer who writes for numerous websites, newspapers, magazines, and private clients. She can be contacted at sandyeller1@gmail.com.

Jerusalem Resident Killed In Rock Attack On Rosh Hashanah

$
0
0

Levlovits funeral 2By Jonathan Benedek

Alexander Levlovitz, the Israeli who was killed in a rock attack on his car on Rosh Hashanah, was buried on Wednesday, September 16. Hundreds, including his shocked family members, attended his funeral, where he was eulogized by his children, Nir and Maya.

Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu addressed the stone-throwing incident, saying that the stone-throwers do not differentiate between their victims. “The stone does not distinguish between a car hit here, in which an Israeli citizen was killed, and a rock thrown within the Green Line,” said the prime minister in the Jerusalem neighborhood of Armon Hanetziv, the area where the attack took place.

Levlovitz, 64, was driving home from a Jewish New Year dinner on Sunday evening, September 13, in Armon Hanetziv, which is located south of the Old City next to some Arab neighborhoods. The victim’s car was struck by stones thrown by Arab youths, causing him to lose control of the vehicle. Levlovitz passed away shortly thereafter, having suffered wounds and an apparent heart attack.

Following a surge of violence in Jerusalem over the past few months, Prime Minister Netanyahu toured Israel’s capital Wednesday morning with Public Security Minister Gilad Erdan, Transportation and Road Safety Minister Yisrael Katz, and Jerusalem Mayor Nir Barkat. During the tour, Netanyahu announced that Israel was making changes in its engagement policy with rock-throwers.

“We are changing policy,” Netanyahu stated. “The present situation is unacceptable and we intend to provide soldiers and police officers with the tools necessary to act firmly against those who throw stones and firebombs.”

Included in the policy changes are methods of engagement and penalties with rock throwers. “We are also going to adopt changes in the rules of engagement and for minimum sentences on those who throw stones and firebombs,” Netanyahu explained. “In addition, we will massively increase fines for minors and their families to create deterrence there as well.”

“This stone is one too many,” Netanyahu said referring to the stones thrown at Levlovitz’s car. “We are declaring war on those who throw stones and bottles, and rioters.” (Tazpit)

Tefillah And Kehillah Are Inseparable

$
0
0

The following address was delivered on Shabbos in a local shul by one of its members who is in need of a yeshuah. May it serve to inspire many and may all the good that it accomplishes be a z’chus for a refuah sheleimah for Moshe ben Chana, b’soch sh’ar cholei Yisrael. Please have him in mind during your tefillos.

The yemeiElul are here and the Yom HaDin is almost upon us. In our own lives, we each have so many things to be grateful for, yet at the same time, still have so many wants and needs. This year, this period has taken on an even greater meaning for some of us, and it has become obvious that we need HaKadosh Baruch Hu’s constant help. However, we really must all realize and internalize that, quite literally, in every instance, all of our lives depend totally on Him and we are all in His hands, every minute of every day.

The mefarshim say that the biggest act of tochachah and mussar given in the Torah was when Yosef HaTzaddik said to his brothers the two words: “Ani Yosef!” He didn’t rebuke them by asking how they could have done what they did to him all those years ago or go on an accusatory rant. He merely said “Ani Yosef!” Just looking at Yosef, his mere presence, and with those two words, the brothers understood that what they had believed for the past 22 years was wrong. Yosef had not been destined to be a slave but rather was destined for malchus, and their actions had been misguided. Those two words, Ani Yosef, were all that was needed to be said for the message to be received.

Morai v’rabbosai, my dear fellow mispallelim, ani Moshe ben Chana. This is my new identity, and I want to speak to you about, and remind us all, of the opportunity we are given through the gift of tefillah and what it means to me. You don’t need to look very closely to see that I am on my own journey of tefillah and bakashah as I seek a yeshuah and refuah from HaKadosh Baruch Hu. But the beauty of this kehillah and every kehillah, is that we all must know and internalize that we are not on our own. I thank you from the depths of my heart for all of your tefillos. We have been so overwhelmingly touched by the outpouring of support and friendship from family, friends, and people who we don’t even know, who are expending so much effort to create z’chuyos on my behalf. We truly feel “Yisrael chad hu.” We are a family here and family cares about each other, davens for each other, shares simcha with each other, and, Rachmanah litzlan, hard times with each other. With that comforting knowledge, however, also comes an unbelievable achrayus. As members of this kehillah, we must do all that we can for each other, and we will be judged based upon the seriousness with which we take that responsibility. I, as well as many others, am counting on your tefillos, just as I am davening for each and every one of you and your families. For better or worse, we will either swim together or, chas v’shalom, sink together. This beis ha’knesses is our communal raft on the ocean that is our lives.

Right after I was diagnosed, I happened to stumble upon the famous story about a man who fell very ill and went to Rav Avigdor Miller, zt’l, for a berachah. Rav Miller asked the man if he gave the proper kavod to tefillah in shul, to which the man answered yes. Then Rav Miller continued, and asked him if others in his shul were all giving the proper kavod to tefillah as well, to which he answered—unfortunately, not all of them yet. The rav told him to leave his shul and begin davening elsewhere in a shul of mispallelim who understand the importance of tefillah and act in kind. The man did so, and he miraculously recovered. I am not in a position to give mussar and I certainly am not one who judges anybody. But I feel an achrayus to my fellow kehillah members and now to myself, as well. We are a tzibbur, a team, a family, and HaKadosh Baruch Hu views us that way. We are not a bunch of random people who happen to daven in the same place for our own individual problems. We are viewed as onekehillah, and if any one of us does not treat tefillah with the kavod that is required, that person, according to Rav Avigdor Miller, is devaluating and possibly negating his neighbors’ tefillos. I know that this is an awesome responsibility none of us would like to play with.

Our very thoughtful president and gabbai encouraged me to speak today to create extra z’chuyos for myself. Their rationale was that being officially involved in more tzorcheitzibbur will provide me with additional shemirah. What kindness they have shown me. They understand that members of one kehillah are indeed family to each other, and they acted out of pure, genuine care and concern.

When we embarked upon the construction of our beismidrash, we had one objective in mind—to build a shul in our midst that would be at least as beautiful as the homes that surround it, that would be a true haven for kiddushHashem and kedushah, and that would be a place from which pure, genuine tefillah and Torah emanate. Baruch Hashem, with the help and generosity of all of you, we were able to build this binyan, which I do believe is undoubtedly magnificent. But have we indeed succeeded in our true endeavor? Our illustrious rav puts his heart and soul into always conveying to us what our main purpose here is, because he understands its importance, and wants all the tefillos generated from here to be accepted and pleasing in the eyes of the Borei Olam. But do we all do justice to this cause? Have we fulfilled the shul’s true mission to be a mikdash me’at that was built to be mekadesh Shem Shamayim u’l’hagdil Torah u’lhaadirah?

Tefillah, at its core, is about our fundamental relationship with our Father in heaven. We are given three formal opportunities a day to connect with Him. How seriously do we value those opportunities? Do we need to wait until, chasv’shalom, we really need Him to take tefillah seriously? We need to develop the keen awareness that even in the good times He has to be standing with us for us to thrive, and through tefillah we are afforded this precious chance to recognize all that He does for each and every one of us daily. When one is in my position, trust me, you talk to Hashem all day. Every day. Begging. Pleading. Crying. Longing to be able to talk to Him again from a place of joy and peace.

What separates man from all other living beings is that he is a medaber; we have the power to speak and express our thoughts and emotions. However, we have to be careful to use our mouths appropriately. When we stand in this space during tefillah, this makom kadosh that was built with a lot of mesirus nefesh by many, do we really feel as if we are conversing with our Father? If our father asked to speak or meet with us every day for our own benefit, would we ever show up late? Would we ever let our attention wander or not look him in the eye? Would we talk to others instead of to him? What kind of kibbud av would that be and what kind of message would we be sending to our father? Unfortunately, my father is no longer alive, but what wouldn’t I give to have the opportunity to speak with him again as I did every day during his lifetime? Al achas kamma v’kamma how I should feel towards Avinu she’baShamayim, the Melech Malchei HaMelachim.

As I look around, I see all of you, my brothers, my family. I see those who are having difficulty with parnassah, challenges with their children, in need of shidduchim, in need of refuos, and the list goes on. I see those here that have had miraculous recoveries from many hardships—I am sure, due in no small part, to the fact that many of us came together, with a unified voice, to speak to our Father during those times. Can we really afford to waste any tefillah opportunity when so many here are counting on us?

No one can do it alone. As we begin Selichos tonight and approach this Rosh Hashanah, let us please, as a kehillah, take it upon ourselves to use our time here in our beismidrash the way it was meant to be spent . . . with introspection, with thought, with respect, with seriousness, and with the deep concern that I know each and every one of us has for one another. If we can accomplish that, I am confident that we can break the doors of Sha’areiShamayim wide open, so that our collective tefillos will iy’H be heard and answered by HaKadosh Baruch Hu the way we want them to be—l’tov!

I will conclude with a berachah for the New Year. May we always be able to connect to Hashem through happiness and may we never have to feel pain or desperation in order to propel us into heartfelt, genuine tefillah. Please, don’t waste our precious chances and please, let us not let each other down. Have a kesivah v’chasimah tovah and a gut gebentched yohr!

Piece For Peace: Limiting The Stress Of Divorce

$
0
0

By Esther Schonfeld and Rachel Marks

“Imagine all the people living life in peace.”—John Lennon

There is an old joke that we often tell that makes light of an attorney’s propensity to argue. When a lawyer has the law on her side she argues the law; when an attorney has the facts on his side, he argues the facts; and when an attorney has neither, he just argues. We have to ask ourselves, attorneys and non-attorneys alike, how often we argue just to argue. How often do we assert ourselves just because we want to be right or have the last word?

This time of year it is customary to wish our relatives and friends well and bid them good wishes for the New Year that include health, prosperity, and peace. But what do we really mean? How far are we willing to extend ourselves for peace?

Back in the day, the contestants at every beauty pageant would wish for “world peace.” When we wish someone “peace” in the upcoming year, is our wish just as canned? It is not that I doubt the contestants really wanted world peace, but rather that they had given any thought to what that entailed. Did they have a game plan, a course of action? I am going to go out on a limb and say that we are living in a time where a blessing for world peace is necessary and universally recognized. Given the state of world affairs from civil wars, ISIS, and the Iranian threat, to name just a few, we all need to dedicate much of our tefillot to world peace. Not as widely recognized and prayed for are the more personal matters of turmoil and strife affecting others among us. It is the peace in our homes and families that I wish to explore.

Though it sounds counterintuitive, one of the compelling reasons for a couple to sign a halachic prenuptial agreement is as a token of love and of mutual respect. You might wonder how signing a document discussing the possible disintegration of a marriage has anything to do with love and respect. The reality is that when a couple signs such an agreement, they are pledging to respect each other even when they are in the worst of times. They are proclaiming that even if their marriage is not successful, they will still respect each other enough to let go amicably.

Unfortunately, the most painful turmoil is often felt when a marriage disintegrates, when those who once pledged their love and commitment to one another find that they can no longer be married. This article does not address the precipitating reasons for a divorce but rather the course that is taken once the serious decision has been made to divorce. So, what becomes of our wishes for peace? When parties can no longer remain married, there are peaceful ways to navigate the difficult process of divorce.

An important lesson that we try to impart to our children is that you don’t have to bring someone else down in order to raise yourself up. The same concept is applicable here. If parties choose to mediate their divorce, mediation with a trained and experienced individual who has a good track record settling cases can help two people separate in a way that will build bridges to the future and not tear them down. We teach our children to be problem-solvers, to see solutions and not just problems. There is no one who knows your financial, psychological, religious, and emotional needs the way that you do. So ultimately, with the help of a skilled and trained professional to guide you through the process, you are able to problem-solve. What people fail to understand is that when a matter is put in the hands of the court, it is put in the court’s sole discretion. A judge who does not know you or your children will make important decisions regarding the rest of your life.

When two people have children together, they will always be a part of each other’s lives. It will be necessary for them to communicate regarding decisions large and small. They will need to discuss everything—whether a child’s homework has been completed prior to making a parenting switch, how to treat a major illness, and everything in between. The parents will see each other at birthday parties, Chumash plays, parent-teacher conferences, weddings, events for their grandchildren, etc. Given the inevitable involvement in each other’s lives, it is to everyone’s benefit that a parting of ways be as amicable as possible.

If people are willing to put peace above all else and begin to recognize that disdain and pettiness are just an expression of our hurt during a most challenging time, then families would weather a difficult time in their lives better and the outcome would be stronger with a more collaborative future.

In the coming year, we wish you and your loved ones health and prosperity. May your burdens be lessened and may HaKadosh Baruch Hu grant you the strength to choose peace over pettiness and respect over disdain.

Esther Schonfeld, Esq., and Rachel Marks, Esq., are associated with the law firm of  Schonfeld & Goldring, LLP, with offices located at 112 Spruce Street, Suite A, Cedarhurst, NY 11516. Schonfeld & Goldring, LLP limits its practice to divorce law, family law, and matrimonial law in both secular court and rabbinical courts. The law firm represents clients located in the five boroughs, Nassau, Suffolk, Westchester, and Rockland Counties in all aspects of family and matrimonial law with resolution through litigation, mediation, and collaborative law. Ms. Schonfeld, also a trained mediator, is a member of the NY State Council on Divorce Mediation. The authors can be reached at 516-569-5001 or at www.SchonfeldandGoldring.com.


The Agunah Wars: An Analysis

$
0
0
Rabbi Asher Lopatin

Rabbi Asher Lopatin

Halachic Musings

By Rabbi Yair Hoffman

Last week, the Five Towns Jewish Times ran an article about the unfortunate dilemma of agunos. A number of points were made in the article. One point was that Rav Hershel Schachter, a leading halachicposek and a champion of the rights of agunos, had voiced serious dissent against what he sees as radically innovative methods propounded by the International Beis Din established by Rabbi Simcha Krauss.

The approach, in essence, creates annulments by unilaterally dissolving marriages by a light investigation where the three members of the beisdin determine that there were never valid witnesses in the first place.

This author further pointed out that ultimately the “annulment approach” to resolving the agunah crisis would both create pariah status for the descendants of those who received IBD annulments as well as cause a marriage rift in Orthodox Judaism. I presented the argument that we must certainly address the agunah crisis, but not at this double cost of making these young women and their children pariahs and of causing a rift within KlalYisrael where people will not marry into them.

Update

Since then, the Five Towns Jewish Times has obtained specific rulings that have emanated from the IBD. It seems that the IBD has thus far issued annulments to seven women. The 5TJT has seen the alleged arguments for three of these rulings. Essentially, the IBD views videotapes of the weddings and seeing no witnesses standing in the front, assumes that there were no previously specified witnesses in the audience and thus annuls the marriages. They also assume incompetence on behalf of the officiating rabbi, an assumption that is, at best, halachically questionable.

Initially, the IBD claimed that they would have full transparency in regard to all their annulments. Unfortunately, the rulings were never made public, even though a full seven annulments have been issued. Only after pressure has some of the information been released.

Further clarifications have also revealed that Rav Zalman Nechemiah Goldberg had never backed the IBD initiative. Previously it was reported that he had initially supported the idea but backed away. It seems that this is entirely incorrect. Inquiries have revealed that Rav Goldberg had never backed the IBD initiative in any manner.

It was also claimed by supporters of the IBD that Rav Hershel Schachter had made a deal that he would not come out against the IBD and had reneged on this arrangement. This too, has proven to be entirely unverifiable. Rav Schachter had only met with Rabbi Krauss in June 2015 at Rabbi Krauss’s initiative. The meeting was held at Yeshiva University and no such “deal” or conversation took place. There was no other communication between the two or their representatives.

Because of Rav Schachter’s dissent, 100 rabbis have signed on to attack Rav Schachter’s position. A good many of these signatures are from rabbis who are simply not on the same page as most Orthodox rabbis. They have taken the most radical positions on issues of Biblical criticism, changing the formulation of blessings instituted by the Men of the Great Assembly, recognizing marriages that the Torah clearly prohibits, and engaging in interfaith activities that are clearly forbidden by halachah.

There have also been several Facebook campaigns subtly attacking Rav Schachter. One such campaign is titled, “I stand with the IBD. Say yes to halachic civility.” The campaign essentially labels Rav Schachter as being uncivil in espousing his halachic positions.

On a final note, it is disconcerting that the voice of the yeshiva community has not been heard as of yet on a matter that can affect the future of KlalYisrael. This author has no doubt that in the coming weeks or months such statements will be issued. What is disconcerting is that the yeshiva community still takes significant time to react to important issues.

Below is a back-and-forth correspondence between this author and the dean of Chovevei Torah regarding the possible rift and the pariah status of IBD annulments.

Dear Rabbi Hoffman,

The one thing I would most strongly disagree with is that when the IBD releases these agunot, they or their children will be pariahs. To the contrary, well over 100—and maybe hundreds—of Orthodox rabbis will be competing to officiate at their weddings. And all the girls or boys they meet, while perhaps getting a thumbs down from their shul rabbi (who may be centrist or chareidi), will find many Orthodox rabbis that will approve of the shidduch. And the families will all go to these weddings, and the friends of families will all go . . .  No split in sight as long as rabbis will do the weddings.

Also, the letter is not denouncing Rabbi Hershel Schachter, just supporting Rav Krauss.

Gmar Chatimah Tovah and Yasher Koach on Your Writing,

Asher Lopatin

Dear Rabbi Lopatin,

Thanks for your response. I do not know of anyone in the yeshiva community who would marry a child from such an annulment. The yeshiva world and community is not an insignificant section of KlalYisrael. What this is doing is ensuring that people from a Modern Orthodox background not marry into families with a yeshiva background—and that would be a terrible, terrible shame.

Yair Hoffman

Dear Rabbi Hoffman,

They will all come to the weddings, and if they can find an Orthodox rabbi who gives a thumbs up, they will marry them. Rabbis even in the yeshivishevelt are losing control—for better or for worse.

Asher Lopatin

Dear Rabbi Lopatin,

Thank you for your response and wishing you a kesivah v’chasimah tovah as well.

Regarding the issue of annulments of Jewish weddings, I am sorry to have to point this out, but we cannot just “will away” an issue just because we don’t like the implications of a very valid point. There is a clear and present problem here, in regard to the creation of a rift. It has nothing to do with whether a rabbi would be willing to marry them. Of course you will find “orthodox rabbis” willing to marry them. There are Orthodox rabbis that will do anything, as one can see from a cursory glance of headlines in the past few months.

My point is that the annulment game has already created a situation where no one from a yeshiva background would wish to date girls or their children when they have received annulments. Our well-placed rachmanus for the agunah will create a horrific situation for her post-annulment child if we adopt the annulment system—no ifs, ands, or buts. It already has. Certainly Rabbi Krauss does not have a better reputation than Rav Moshe Feinstein, zt’l’s own grandchild. Yet he has given annulments and no one from the yeshiva world or the chassidish world will date these girls.

Although you write, “They will all come” and “They will marry them,” I believe this is either head-in-the-sand thinking or that you are completely unaware of an entire demographic of Jews.

Denying a problem will not make it go away.

There are entire zip codes where the residents are as likely to marry a girl with an IBD annulment as they are likely to eat lobster or shrimp. Example zip codes are 08701, 11249, 11219, 10952, just to name a few. Think of Madison Square Garden’s siyumhaShas, Rabbi Lopatin. Do you really think that there is one, even one, attendee who would have his child marry a girl or boy whose mother did not receive a get but had an annulment?

It is all very well and good to try to solve one problem, but creating a much larger problem by trying to solve another problem is short-sighted and very damaging.

With due respect, I submit that your response indicates a similar unawareness as to where the chassidic, the yeshivish, and the chareidi world is holding. They will not marry these children and will consider them mamzerim.

Don’t get me wrong. We need a solution to the agunah dilemma. But it has to be one that does not create larger problems. And we cannot pretend that this rift will not happen. If you put a world-class hechsher on pork rinds, KlalYisrael will not eat the pork rinds; they will throw out the world-class hechsher.

Moshe Montefiore once tried to enter HarHaBayis in a carefully constructed box that allegedly would make it as if he wasn’t actually entering HarHaBayis. They stoned him.

Wishing you a gut Shabbos and a gut gebentched year,

Yair Hoffman

Dear Rabbi Hoffman,

I’m listening, I take what you say seriously, but I don’t agree. And that’s for the record!

A gut yohr—in all the zip codes!

Asher

The author can be reached at Yairhoffman2@gmail.com.

Victorious Defeat

$
0
0

By Larry Gordon

We all pushed hard in our own ways for the P5+1 deal with Iran to go down to defeat. It doesn’t appear that those efforts were successful, as the presidential executive order has not garnered enough opposition in Congress and, as a result, it will be implemented over the next several months as U.S. policy on Iran.

The New York Times reported last week that the effort to have the Iran deal rejected was a significant defeat for AIPAC—the American-Israel Public Affairs Committee. But was it really?

Israel’s prime minister lobbied the Congress hard to turn the deal down, but those efforts seem to have come up short—or did they?

The Israeli leadership is perceptive. They most likely knew that this effort was not going to be successful. Why didn’t the prime minister pull back or at least go with the flow and make the best of a difficult situation? And why didn’t AIPAC do the same thing?

It now appears that although Israel knows that this full-court press in Congress would not turn things around for Israel on the Iran deal, there were numerous benefits to be reaped by continuing the struggle against the deal, with Prime Minister Netanyahu planning on speaking out forcefully against the nuclear agreement when he speaks before the UN General Assembly later this month.

As things turn out, it seems that Israel might be in a much better position strategically and diplomatically with the deal going forward than if it had been defeated in Congress. At the same time, the benefits would not be as copious had there not been organized and vehement opposition to the deal. AIPAC knew this, Netanyahu knew this, and many in the Republican Party understand this to be the best way to proceed. In a sense, Mr. Obama may have gotten his way but he also may have been checkmated by Israel and her representatives here in the U.S.

On the surface, none of this makes sense. From the outside, it looks to many like Israel took a huge gamble in going up against Mr. Obama and lost. There should be repercussions and consequences for the position taken against the president. For now, it looks like Mr. Obama might be a little unnerved, but the diplomatic jockeying and the tradeoffs with senators for support for the deal will benefit the Jewish state beyond anyone’s expectations.

That is, except for the New York Times, which relishes pronouncing a setback or defeat for Israel on its front page as often as possible. That is the nature of the critical but superficial types of reporting that the Times specializes in, especially when it comes to Israel.

Now in the aftermath of the battle for the deal, it looks like the U.S. will have to compensate and build Israel’s defensive military arsenal to a much larger scale than if circumstances were different. In a sense, this is a win for all sides—at least temporarily. The president gets his lone foreign-policy achievement that will not be viewed as a novice’s error until quite a few years from now, and though Israel opposed the achievement, the Jewish state has to receive a consolation gift in order to ameliorate the potential pain and suffering down the line.

The odd thing about all this contradictory interplay is that the president has claimed all along that he had to take steps that endanger Israel and other Middle Eastern states in order to protect them. If we take a step back and try to analyze the Obama approach to international scoundrels like the Iranian leadership, it is an approach that while dangerous, is also somewhat refreshing.

This is aside from the worn-out phrase that “all options are still on the table,” which is supposed to mean that if all else fails, the U.S., Israel, or a combination thereof can still use utilize the military option that can set Iran back not just to a state worse than being ravaged by economic sanctions, but back to a previous century and a condition they may never be able to recover from.

In a way, these possible scenarios or threats are a throwback to the Cold War between the U.S. and the Soviet Union, when the arms race was about which country could destroy the other hundreds of times. We all know that in reality, in a knockdown, drag-out war, any country only needs to beat or destroy its opponents once—that should do the trick.

In that vein, Mr. Obama presented his position by explaining that the Iran military budget is only $15 billion annually while that of Israel is several times more than that, and the U.S. military budget is hundreds of billions of dollars. In other words, this entire drama may be little more than something akin to a political election campaign where the candidate with the most money has the best chance to win.

So while the Times and other liberal media are overjoyed that the effort of elements of the organized Jewish community were reversed, they may be greatly disappointed when they find out that defeat might have been the plan all along.

It seems that for the time being, the more Mr. Netanyahu criticized the Iran deal, the more Mr. Obama has to do for Israel. That might only be part of the current strategy. The other aspect is that the more Israel is out there condemning and censuring the deal, the more difficult it is for the Obama administration to exact any retribution for being so overtly condemned by Israel and her representatives.

It has been expected all along that Mr. Obama would wait until his last year in office in order to create additional international pressures and discomfort for the only true democracy in a sea of dictatorships dominated by violence and terror in the Middle East. That is just one of the oddities of what it means to be a Jew these days in this world.

This wild state of affairs is reminiscent of the outcome of the 1973 Yom Kippur War in which the Israeli Army had the Egyptians encircled and was ready to crush them if not for the intervention of President Nixon and Secretary of State Henry Kissinger. In the aftermath of the lightning victory of the Six Day War in 1967, this was a hard fight for Israel that included large sacrifices in human life. It took three weeks for Israel to defeat the attacking armies of Egypt and Syria.

Still, Egypt observes the October War—as they call it—as a great victory marked by parades, pageantry, and fanfare. What are they celebrating exactly? They are celebrating the fact that it took them three weeks to be defeated instead of six days. The Arab world is a tough place in which to find things to celebrate, especially in these tumultuous times. So now, in a way, it is Israel’s turn to take a chapter out of that book and celebrate defeat—a loss that, in the end, will be looked upon as a victory after all.

Comments for Larry Gordon are welcome at editor@5tjt.com.

A Five Towns Simcha

$
0
0

Azamra - Stein Bas MitzvahPhoto by Azamra DJ

Mazal tov to Dr. Lewis and Mrs. Raizy Stein of Lawrence on the bat mitzvah of their daughter Sara. Mazal tov also to sisters Rachel, Daniella, and Shira. Sara attends Shulamith. The event was held on September 7 at Beth Sholom in Lawrence. Catering was by Meisner’s and entertainment by Azamra DJ.

 

Taking A Haircut Holiday

$
0
0

By Rabbi Avrohom Sebrow

The Shulchan Aruch (O.C. 531:1) writes that there is a mitzvah to take a haircut on erev yom tov. The Pri Megadim is unsure if the mitzvah is that one should ensure his hair looks its best in honor of yom tov, or perhaps there is only a mitzvah to take a haircut if one’s hair is somewhat overgrown and he definitely needs one.

If one did not take a haircut before yom tov, he may not take one on chol ha’moed. This is true even though one could correctly argue that taking a haircut qualifies as a yom tov need. Nevertheless, the Sages forbade taking a haircut on chol ha’moed.

The prohibition applies to shaving as well. Still, Rav Moshe Feinstein, zt’l, ruled that in case of great need, someone who shaves every day, who is in a place where other people likewise shave every day, may shave even on chol ha’moed. But even if someone relies on this leniency, he still may not take a haircut, although the Shulchan Aruch clearly writes that a mustache was not included in the decree. One may freely trim his mustache on chol ha’moed, even if his only intention is for vanity.

Interestingly, Rav Elyashiv discusses a person who mindlessly pulls out his hair while engaged in studying or some other activity. He does not have to be on guard to suspend that behavior on chol ha’moed. He did caution, however, that a person who realizes that he is randomly pulling out hairs should cease doing so on chol ha’moed.

The Shulchan Aruch lists several exceptions to the above injunction. One who was let out of prison right before yom tov or on chol ha’moed may take a haircut and shave. The Sha’ar HaTziyon opines that even if a prisoner was let out a few hours before yom tov and correctly and wisely chose to use his precious little time to prepare for the holiday (such as preparing his lulav or his Seder needs) may nevertheless not take a haircut on chol ha’moed.

An excommunicated individual, who was forbidden to take a haircut, may take a haircut on chol ha’moed if he was freed from his exclusionary treatment on chol ha’moed.

A person who uttered a vow that he would not shave may shave on chol ha’moed if he had his vow annulled then.

What is the halachah regarding a person who lost his shaver and wasn’t able to shave before yom tov? What happens if the barber had a bout of the flu and was closed the week before yom tov? What happens if a person’s electricity was shut off due to non-payment, and it was only restored right before yom tov? May he shave when his power is restored?

The Mishnah Berurah writes that we may not add to the exceptions the Shulchan Aruch listed. There is something unique about those circumstances that doesn’t necessarily apply to other situations (see Sha’ar HaTziyon 7). However, there are some other exceptions mentioned in the Gemara that the Shulchan Aruch chose not to list.

The Gemara writes in Moed Katan that a nazir who completed his nezirus may take a haircut on chol ha’moed. He was not able to cut his hair before and in fact now has a mitzvah to do so. (As an aside, the Rashba writes that the mitzvah is only to cut the hair on his head, not the beard.) The Gemara writes that a nazir must cut his hair with a razor. This would normally be forbidden for a man, as he has an obligation to preserve his peyos. Nevertheless, the Torah tells us that a nazir must perform his haircutting ritual with a razor. This may even be done on chol ha’moed.

There is another interesting example, mentioned by the Rema, of someone who is permitted to take a haircut on chol ha’moed. The Torah writes that the Levi’im who took the place of the bechorim were obligated to shave all their hair with a razor. Rashi quotes Rav Moshe HaDarshan that the shaving was to atone for the sin of idolatry committed by the firstborn during the sin of the Golden Calf. Just as a metzora must shave all his hair, someone who committed idolatry must do likewise. A metzora and someone who worshipped Avodah Zarah are similar in the respect that that they are both symbolically considered dead.

The Terumas HaDeshen therefore writes that there is a custom that a heretic who wants to do teshuvah shaves all his hair and goes to the mikveh. The Rema writes that this person who has now returned to the fold may fulfill this custom and shave his hair on chol ha’moed. The Shvus Yaakov cautions that the shaving should not be done with a razor, as we shouldn’t get too carried away with the custom. The Levi’im had a clear commandment to shave with a razor and therefore were permitted to do so. The same holds true for the nazir and metzora. This ba’al teshuvah, though, who is shaving to fulfill a custom, must use scissors, as it is forbidden for a man to completely remove his peyos or shave his beard with a razor.

Although this situation may not have much everyday relevance, the implications of this halachah do. The Mishnah Berurah writes that even if this ba’al teshuvah repented before yom tov, with ample time to shave, he may nevertheless shave on chol ha’moed. The Mishnah Berurah says the reason for this leniency is that the custom is that he may not be counted for a minyan before he shaves. Shaving enables him to do mitzvos and be counted as a full upstanding member of Klal Yisrael.

Based on this explanation, the poskim conclude that one may take a haircut on chol ha’moed if it fulfills a mitzvah purpose. The poskim mention three examples. (1) A man who puts on tefillin on chol ha’moed may cut his hair if he is concerned that his long hair may be a chatzitzah. (2) A married woman who is unable to cover her hair because it is too long may trim her hair on chol ha’moed. (3) Finally, a chassidish woman who has a custom of shaving all her hair before going to the mikveh may do so even on chol ha’moed. v

Rabbi Avrohom Sebrow leads a daf yomi chaburah at Eitz Chayim of Dogwood Park in West Hempstead. He can be contacted at ASebrow@gmail.com.

 

Living Jewish History In The Munkacser Sukkah

$
0
0
Beis Haknesses Nefutsot Yehudah,  1799, Gibraltar

Beis Haknesses Nefutsot Yehudah,
1799, Gibraltar

Choral Synagogue, 1903,  Vilnius, Lithuania

Choral Synagogue, 1903,
Vilnius, Lithuania

Langside Shul, 1927, Glasgow, Scotland

Langside Shul, 1927, Glasgow, Scotland

Munkacser Rebbe and Eli Vegh

Munkacser Rebbe and Eli Vegh

Lancut Shul, 1763, Poland

Lancut Shul, 1763, Poland

Machberes: Inside The Chassidish And Yeshivish World

By Rabbi Gershon Tannenbaum

Several sukkahs around the world have earned worldwide recognition for their exceptional beauty. Boro Park has an impressive number of them. Most impressive are those of Bobov on 48th Street and Bobov 45 on 49th Street, and especially that of Munkacs. Situated on 14th Avenue between 47th and 48th Streets, the Munkacser sukkah serves not only as a yomtov citadel of Chassidic rapture, but also as a portal to the world’s great historical synagogues of the past, many of which are still in daily use.

For the past 13 years, a total of 170 aesthetically enlarged professional photographs have decorated the Munkacser sukkah, and simultaneously served as major contributions to Jewish history, all taking place in the midst of a brimming chassidish environment. In addition to the Munkacser Rebbe’s illustrious tisch with the spirited participation of thousands, the sukkah itself is magnificent and gives the thousands who visit the opportunity to look back into Jewish history. The many guests have the pleasure of viewing the world-class resplendent sukkah ornamented with a visual tour worthy of Jewish history.

In 1932, Rabbi Chaim Elazar Shapiro, zt’l (1868–1937), revered Munkacser Rebbe and author of Minchas Elazar, under the direction of his doctor, traveled to a health spa near Rendsburg, Germany. Members of the kehillah there shared that in conducting repairs at the community mikveh in 1927, an inscribed shattered stone was found. Hebrew letters could be discerned, but words were indecipherable. The Munkacser Rebbe immediately traveled to Rendsburg and supervised the orderly assembly of the many broken pieces of stone. He was able to match the broken stones and to read: “In this pool of water, the Baal Shem Tov immersed 310 times on a cold day in the winter of 5504 and declared salvation for needy Jews, including barren women.” After the Munkacser Rebbe’s visit, the kehillah presented the Rebbe with a picture of the reassembled stone. The Rebbe used the picture as a decoration for his sukkah. This is recorded in sefer Igros Shirin, which contains a copy of the picture. Today’s Munkacser Rebbe, a grandson of the Minchas Elazar, also adorns his sukkah with historic Jewish pictures.

The Sukkos 5776 (2015) Exhibit

To enhance this year’s sukkah, the Munkacser Rebbe, Joel Berkowitz, and Eli Isaac (Robert) Vegh convened and selected 12 exquisite 20″×30″ photographs that date back as early as the 1600s. This year, the Munkacser sukkah presents a rich visual display of the following important shuls:

Beis Haknesses Nefutsot Yehudah, 1799, Gibraltar. Also known as La Esnoga Flamenca/Flemish Synagogue, this shul is on Line Wall Road in Gibraltar. This ‘new’ shul came about because some felt that Moroccan traditions had begun to dominate the services at the Great Synagogue. Some members of the congregation chose to establish a new synagogue which would adhere to the more formal Dutch customs. The late eighteenth century was a time of prosperity in Gibraltar. Subsequently, the congregants were able to afford the cost of Gibraltar’s next synagogue. The new place of worship was built in a garden and closely resembled the Amsterdam Sephardic synagogue, known as the Portuguese Synagogue. It was named Nefutsot Yehudah (Dispersed of Judah), and opened in 1799. It is commonly known as the Flemish Synagogue (Spanish: Esnoga Flamenca). The interior of the shul was destroyed by fire in 1913. The architect who was designated for its reconstruction was an Italian who was more familiar with the architecture of Catholic churches. As a result, the Flemish Synagogue has a Dutch exterior and an Italian interior, with marble, and a reading desk incorporated into the ark for the Torah, instead of being positioned in the center of the shul. After 1945, Moroccan tiles were installed in its interior, which has ornately patterned ceilings and walls. The only remnant of the original garden is a single palm tree in the synagogue’s courtyard. The Flemish Synagogue, which remains an active place of worship, is located at 65 Line Wall Road.

Beis Haknesses, 1763, Lancut, Poland. Constructed in a Baroque style, the Lancut Shul is a rare surviving example of the four-pillared, vaulted shuls that were built throughout Poland in both wood and masonry from the sixteenth through the early nineteenth centuries. The shul was renovated in the mid-20th century, and underwent renovations in the years 1983–1990.

Beis Medrash Hagadol, 1879, Glasgow, Scotland. Garnethill Synagogue is the historic ‘cathedral synagogue’ of Scotland. It is located in Garnethill, Glasgow. It was designed by John McLeod of Dumbarton, in conjunction with London-based architect Nathan Solomon Joseph of the United Synagogue. McLeod designed a number of public buildings in Glasgow and the west of Scotland. The shul is described as the finest example of high Victorian synagogue architecture north of Liverpool. It is also included within the top ten historic synagogues in the United Kingdom by Jewish Heritage UK. It is also listed as a Glasgow City Council-listed heritage building, described as the “Mother Synagogue of Glasgow.” In 1995, Garnethill Synagogue was granted a Heritage Grant towards repairs of the building, reflecting its architectural importance in Scotland.

Beis Medrash Hagadol, 1884. Turin, Italy. The shul was severely damaged during the bombing in 1942 and rebuilt in 1949. This is the main place of worship of the Jewish community of Turin.

Beis Pinchas, 1600, Djerba, Tunisia and Beis Haknesses, 1500, Djerba, Tunisia. The history of the Jews in Tunisia goes back almost 3,000 years. As of 2011, 700 Jews were living in Tunis and 1,000 on the island of Djerba.

Bevis Marks Synagogue, 1669, London, England. Officially Kahal Kadosh Sha’ar HaShamayim, it is affiliated to London’s historic Spanish and Portuguese Jewish community. It is the only shul in Europe which has held regular services continuously for more than 300 years. During the London Blitz, the shul’s silver religious items and records were moved to safety; the synagogue suffered only minor damage. The synagogue suffered some collateral damage from the IRA in 1992 and the 1993 Bishopsgate bombing. Having been completely repaired, the shul’s original structure is preserved.

Bouwmeesterstraat Shul, 1893, Antwerp, Belgium. The Shomre Hadas Shul, commonly known as the Hollandse Synagoge (English: Dutch Synagogue), is a Modern Orthodox synagogue so named because it was commissioned by descendants of Jews who came to Antwerp from the Netherlands in the early 19th century. It was the first large synagogue in Antwerp. It was severely damaged by bombings during World War II. In 1944, the shul was hit by a Nazi V1 flying bomb. Entirely renovated in 1958, the shul is a protected monument since September 1976. Today the shul is used for services only on Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur.

Choral Synagogue, 1903, Vilnius, Lithuania. (Lithuanian: Vilniaus Choraline Sinagoga). It is the only synagogue in Vilnius that is still in use. The other synagogues were destroyed during World War II, when Lithuania was occupied by Nazi Germany. The synagogue is built in a Romanesque-Moorish style. It is the only active synagogue that survived both the Holocaust and Soviet rule in this city that once had more than 100 synagogues. International donations and a small community of Jews in Vilnius support the synagogue. The synagogue holds services and is open to visitors.

Kaunas Synagogue, 1872, Lithuania. (Lithuanian: Kauno Choraline Sinagoga) is one of two operating choral synagogues in Lithuania. It is located in Centras eldership, Kaunas. The Neo-Baroque synagogue was built in 1872. Before the Holocaust in Lithuania, the city had some 25 synagogues and prayer houses

Langside Shul, 1927, Glasgow, Scotland. The Queen’s Park Synagogue in Lochleven Road, Langside, was designed in a flamboyant Romanesque style. It was consecrated in 1927. The exterior of the unusual concrete building was painted to match the color of surrounding sandstone tenements. In 2008, like many of the unused places of worship in Glasgow’s south side lacking a congregation, the synagogue was converted to apartments and is now known as the “Ark.”

Exhibition Beginnings. Eli Isaac (Robert) Vegh of Lawrence, is well known in the world of chazzanus. In addition to being a successful and respected real-estate financier, Chazzan Robert Vegh is now serving as the chazzan at Congregation Ohr Torah, located on Hungry Harbor Road in North Woodmere. Chazzan Vegh truly inspires those who attend services led by him. In the past Chazzan Vegh has enthralled worshipers at some of the largest congregations in the New York area, including the White Shul in Far Rockaway, Kingsway Jewish Center and the Avenue N Jewish Center in Brooklyn, and Aderet El in Manhattan. Chazzan Vegh is highly esteemed for his knowledge of traditional nusach and chazzanus and is fully at home with heartfelt nigunim and congregational compositions. Last year, he was a lead chazzan in the October 13 concert in Bnei Israel of Linden Heights in Boro Park which celebrated the 80th yahrzeit of renowned Chazzan Yossele Rosenblatt, z’l.

Eli Vegh has an exceptionably warm relationship with the Munkacser Rebbe. Regularly, Robert vacations with his wife by visiting shuls abroad and continuously shares his vacation experiences and all shul photographs with the Rebbe. Having always had an intense interest in older shuls, the Rebbe asks a myriad of pointed questions, with a focus on whether the shuls continue to maintain traditional Torah practices and values, and what their communities are like today.

Eli Vegh met and discovered Joel Berkowitz, a member of Congregation Ohab Zedek in Belle Harbor. Their meeting was so interesting and engaging that Eli proudly introduced Joel and his treasure trove of shul photographs to the Rebbe. Eli volunteered the photographs to be used as regal decorations for the magnificent sukkah that Munkacser chassidim enthusiastically erect every year for their beloved Rebbe.

In addition to Eli sponsoring the costs of professionally developing, enlarging, and custom-framing the photographs in a special high-tech photo lab, Eli and Joel carefully research and prepare brief historical descriptions that are included in the descriptive flyers distributed in the sukkah. Not only do the visitors see the shuls, they also learn each shul’s history. The Munkacser Sukkah experience is truly unique for its own beauty and for its important ongoing historical contribution.

Rabbi Gershon Tannenbaum is the rav of B’nai Israel of Linden Heights in Boro Park and director of the Rabbinical Alliance of America. He can be contacted at yeshiva613@aol.com.

 

Viewing all 2369 articles
Browse latest View live